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Old 08-09-2019, 11:49 AM
 
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BF and I are going to be engaged in the next month or so.

We were talking today, and he told me that he told his best friend our plans on our impending engagement.

He let me know that him and his best friend agree that an engagement ring is NOT something you wear all the time. Rather, you really only wear it to nice events, wedding-related activities, or formal events.

I said, Ďbut I think if Iím just sitting at work or doing sedentary things, I think wearing my engagement ring is fine and nothing to worry about.

I think his biggest worry is that I lose or damage the ring.

How can I calm him down and explain that, yes wearing my ring to the gym, showering, moving, and other physical activities makes sense. But itís fine for me to wear it to places where I wonít be really doing anything other than walking or sitting?

Is he being unreasonable?
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Old 08-09-2019, 11:55 AM
 
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Hmmm...I don't know what to tell you. I can't remember the last time I took mine off!

It seems odd that he wants to dictate when you can and cannot wear your ring. I hope he isn't controlling about other matters.
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Old 08-09-2019, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I think his biggest worry is that I lose or damage the ring.
I really don't think that is his biggest worry.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:03 PM
 
Location: California
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Interesting, I don’t know what to say. Never heard of this. Is he not ready to make the commitment after all or did his best friend try and get him to hold off? Just wondering.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:09 PM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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The only time I've not worn my engagement ring was when I lost the diamond. I will take it off when I swim, but other than that, it's on all the time. I've had it for 37 years.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Continental Europe
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Are you sure he wants to get married?
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:20 PM
 
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That what jewelry riders are for. Insure it and he won't have to worry.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Pacific Northwest
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He let me know that him and his best friend agree that an engagement ring is NOT something you wear all the time. Rather, you really only wear it to nice events, wedding-related activities, or formal events.
You should be able to wear your engagement ring as often as you want to. Why would you let anyone else try to regulate usage of YOUR ring?

And why are YOU okay with his best friend having a voice/say in a matter that's between you and your BF?

Between this issue and your other threads about you and your BF, this doesn't bode well for the future of your relationship with him.
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Old 08-09-2019, 01:04 PM
 
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IIRC your B/f is from another country, correct? Maybe that's how its done wherever he's from.
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Old 08-09-2019, 01:07 PM
 
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Wear it as much as you want. I wear mine all the time unless I am doing something that could hurt it.
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