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Old Today, 08:53 AM
 
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Hello!
However, I've noticed his location on the app is changing - when he went home, came back and now when he's on vacation.
The only way for you to notice this is if you, too, are still on Tinder...

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Then he said he was using it to see my pictures..
Plausible. Text him a picture or two (like your profile pics, nothing dirty lol).

If you want to be exclusive, ask him to agree to that and both of you delete your dating app(s). If not, it is what it is.
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Old Today, 10:13 AM
 
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1.5 month ago I met a guy on Tinder. He was texting/calling me every day, organizing dates, etc. On our third date he showed something on his phone and I saw tinder notification.. On the next one we kissed, were holding hands, hugging, we was very affectionate. He started to talk about the future, where we can go in few months, about me meeting his friends, he said he's looking for serious relationship. However, I've noticed his location on the app is changing - when he went home, came back and now when he's on vacation. I started conversation about us and he said he is talking to and only seeing me. I asked about the app. He said he is using it just when he's bored, he can remove it, that he cares about me and his previous relationship failed because of lies and he doesn't want that again. Then he said he was using it to see my pictures.. It's been 1.5 and we didn't sleep with each other and were not exclsive but I feel like he lied to me saying he doesn't talk to anyone while he waa using Tinder.
Don’t YOU have to be using the app to know he’s using the app? You’re following his location?
As soon as a guy has one of these: “Gotcha! I was on the app and caught you on the app!” Moments...I’m done.
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Old Today, 10:20 AM
 
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This happened to me this week.

I made plans to meet someone for a drink. Later on, I had an alert that I have a message. I logged onto the app to read my message- as I’m reading my message- I get a new message, it’s from the guy I was just talking to about meeting.
He asked: “So have you found anyone else yet?”
I replied: “don’t do that, it’s kind of creepy.”
He replied: “I was just kidding!”

I don’t like people who do this, and I don’t believe they’re kidding, I think they already feel like they “took possession”, and so I usually just don't involved with them.
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Old Today, 12:08 PM
 
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This happened to me this week.

I made plans to meet someone for a drink. Later on, I had an alert that I have a message. I logged onto the app to read my message- as I’m reading my message- I get a new message, it’s from the guy I was just talking to about meeting.
He asked: “So have you found anyone else yet?”
I replied: “don’t do that, it’s kind of creepy.”
He replied: “I was just kidding!”

I don’t like people who do this, and I don’t believe they’re kidding, I think they already feel like they “took possession”, and so I usually just don't involved with them.
It's not about taking possession. Did you tell this person you are exclusive, you have feelings for her, that you want her to meet your friends and go to Spain in the spring? He told me these things and still looking so I think it's just lack of honesty.
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Old Today, 12:12 PM
 
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It's not about taking possession. Did you tell this person you are exclusive, you have feelings for her, that you want her to meet your friends and go to Spain in the spring? He told me these things and still looking so I think it's just lack of honesty.
The point of honesty isn't to be on the app and accusing the other person of being on the app? What would you have done if he turned the tables on you, like I like to do and ask how you know he's still looking unless you are too? Would you reply that you only use it to keep tabs on him and his whereabouts? That doesn't sound any better...
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Old Today, 01:37 PM
 
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So why is it OK for you to be on there, but not him? You still have the app too if you know his location is changing.
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Old Today, 02:08 PM
 
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Hello!
1.5 month ago I met a guy on Tinder. He was texting/calling me every day, organizing dates, etc. On our third date he showed something on his phone and I saw tinder notification.. On the next one we kissed, were holding hands, hugging, we was very affectionate. He started to talk about the future, where we can go in few months, about me meeting his friends, he said he's looking for serious relationship. However, I've noticed his location on the app is changing - when he went home, came back and now when he's on vacation. I started conversation about us and he said he is talking to and only seeing me. I asked about the app. He said he is using it just when he's bored, he can remove it, that he cares about me and his previous relationship failed because of lies and he doesn't want that again. Then he said he was using it to see my pictures.. It's been 1.5 and we didn't sleep with each other and were not exclsive but I feel like he lied to me saying he doesn't talk to anyone while he waa using Tinder.



Why not just bug his phone, gain access to the app and see what he is up to. that will safe you time, stress and unnecessary speculation about what he is up to with the app and all. Contact me if you need help with that. Some dude helped me when i had a cheater for a partner in my last relationship.
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Old Today, 02:13 PM
 
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So why is it OK for you to be on there, but not him? You still have the app too if you know his location is changing.
On Tinder you can hide your profile so it's not visible. Besides, I did not tell him all these stuff he told me.
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Old Today, 06:41 PM
 
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you met on tinder and are only in early stages of dating, but you're concerned he's on tinder. how does that even make sense?
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Old Today, 06:42 PM
 
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Why not just bug his phone, gain access to the app and see what he is up to. that will safe you time, stress and unnecessary speculation about what he is up to with the app and all. Contact me if you need help with that. Some dude helped me when i had a cheater for a partner in my last relationship.
that sounds kinda illegal
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