What aspects of your parents relationship would you not want in your relationship? (surrogate, boyfriends)

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by Carly1983

I take it the degenerate son was not you ;-)

Nope he was I and I was him.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Infidelity.

[scribbles76]

My parents shouldn’t have had a relationship at all and I’ve never wanted one at all.

[somebodynew]

There was not much about my parent's relationship that I thought was bad. I imagine there was something. But nothing comes to mind.

[Willamette City]

My mother was the ruler in our family. My father was disinterested in family matters. My parents more or less got along, but I didn't see a loving couple. I learned a great deal of what not to do. My wife and I have a great relationship. We are partners together as well as husband and wife. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[jobaba]

To be honest, their relationship is pretty good.

Their background is very similar so they actually agree on most things.

And both are pretty darn boring, so that works out as well in their favor.

I would say that all things considered, they could definitely have found a better match for each other in terms of common interests, but they didn't do too bad.

[miasth]

Everything. I am not even sure how my parents got together. I cannot imagine there ever being any love between them. I sure never saw any sign of it.

[david0966]

My parents really never should have married, they really had little in common and way too young. However, it was the mid 60's and I'm sure there was tons of pressure to get married so that's what you did. They got divorced after about 11 years which was definitely for the best. My dad never really seemed to like being married, and never married again while my mother did. I learned from this and I've always been with someone who I shared most similar interests with and was similar to me in career success, and for the most part it's worked out well. I seemed to take after my dad in that I never had any interest in marriage, and never have been married.

[SoCaldude12]

Constant fighting. They never got along and always fought like crazy, especially over little things.

[gymRAT3311]

One doing the bare minimum while the other does everything. Dad came home from work and wouldn't lift a finger around the house - just occasionally fixing something that was broken. He didn't really deal with us beyond sitting and watching TV. Mom worked and came home, worked around the house, dinner, homework. I just couldn't understand how that was a "partnership."

And yes, because Mom was so busy and exhausted keeping our home together, it gave Dad plenty of time to go after other women. What a slap in the face. Wouldn't be me.