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Old Today, 08:34 AM
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Old Today, 08:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Airekaaah View Post
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and next month it will be our one year anniversary. We’re in our late 20s: me 27 him 28. He is my first boyfriend and I am very much in love and happy with him. Despite this, he all of a sudden tells me that he wants to move to North Carolina and asked me to go with him. His reason behind the move is due to the fact that it is expensive to live where we are at now (we both live in California) and he wants to buy a big house with many rooms and a big backyard because at some point he wants to settle down. To add to that he tells me that he doesn't want to live just paycheck to paycheck while he is here in California if he does plan to buy a house. He works as a financial controller, and from what I know he would rather save money and by doing so would prefer going to another state where mortgage is cheaper and yet the pay for his job is still similar to that of what the rate is here in California. He even did his research and told me that there are a lot of healthcare administration jobs for me, around the area where he wants to move to in North Carolina.
i think your bf is very mature and makes total sense. He is trying to make himself and YOU a good future. He is tired of living paycheck to paycheck. He sounds reasonable and smart.

I think most people on this forum who do not live in CA don't know. But here at my work and amongst my friends we talk about it all the time - living in another state would be so much easier and cheaper. We could afford so much more with our money. I am thinking of moving all the time because I am tired of being a bottom feeder here.

You guys do not have kids and are free to do whatever you like and wherever. Especially if he earns the same over there as in CA. The average gas price in NC is $2.80/gallon. In CA it is $3.80.

I was just in Texas, the registration for my truck would be $80/year. I pay $670/year in CA ... and it is not getting cheaper, it gets worse.
Old Today, 11:29 AM
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Does he want to marry you first? If you are going to make a committment to move, you might want a commitment from him. Forget a long distance relationship.
Old Today, 11:42 AM
Location: bold new city of the south
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Default Boyfriend wants to relocate and asked me to go with him. What should I do?

That's easy;

Old Today, 11:52 AM
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Your boyfriend's reasons for leaving don't make sense. A single guy is relocating to NC to buy a big house for when he settles down? Tell him you are staying put for now and if he goes he goes alone. That will tell you what your future is with him, whether you are more important to him than some impulse to get away from California. If he wanted to move to NYC for a financial opportunity, that would be something else. But to move for a potential house and lower cost of living makes no sense, because a lower cost of living often comes with less opportunity and lower salaries. Are you sure this isn't just a ploy to break up with you?
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