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Old 08-15-2019, 11:23 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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After going through the comments I only saw those saying they wouldn't dare go to such a dinner as they are so nice, how bad it is to go to such places and so on so I brought up the other side nobody mentioned.
Well, you clearly didn't see my posts, because I wasn't saying that, and I wasn't the only one. Apparently you read selectively.

 
Old 08-15-2019, 11:56 AM
 
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i dated a guy who made a habit of paying for expensive dates, even tho i told him i didn't think it wasn't necessary or budget-wise. then suddenly, he needed to 'borrow' from me!!
 
Old 08-15-2019, 11:57 AM
 
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(darn the inability to use the edit function! "i told him i didn't think it was necessary..." <LOL>)
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:12 PM
 
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Well, you clearly didn't see my posts, because I wasn't saying that, and I wasn't the only one. Apparently you read selectively.
I suspect these type of people are doing it intentionally. They know what you said and mean, they just want to twist things.

When you have to explain every single word and phrase of your post...I know it is exhausting for you. It's definitely exhausting for me. LOL!!!
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:20 PM
 
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People obviously do dine out at very expensive restaurants, right? So, it was a simple question about whether this was appropriate to do on a date.

Say that a man is attracted to a woman and wants to make her feel very special. That kind of a situation. For a man who makes a 6-figure income, spending a few hundred dollars on dinner for a special lady isn't that big of a deal.
What makes a woman feel special is knowing that a man has listened to her and know what she likes/dislikes. If she has no interest in fine dining, spending $200 on a fancy meal is a total waste. I actually LIKE fine dining, but I would still find it excessive on a 2nd or 3rd date. For me, a date to a really good hole-in-the-wall place I might not otherwise know, or an up-and-coming midrange place in the $50 range would be much more appealing at an early phase.
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:21 PM
 
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I suspect these type of people are doing it intentionally. They know what you said and mean, they just want to twist things.

When you have to explain every single word and phrase of your post...I know it is exhausting for you. It's definitely exhausting for me. LOL!!!
Yes, many people seem to do that on City Data. I will answer once or twice to give them the benefit of the doubt, but not more than that unless I sincerely believe that they just do not understand what I am trying to say. Otherwise, it is not simply worth my time or the aggravation.
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:28 PM
 
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If she has no interest in fine dining, spending $200 on a fancy meal is a total waste.
Almost everybody I have known in my life values fine dining, at least occasionally. The only issue I have seen is whether or not it is affordable to a person.

I have never heard anybody complain that someone treated them dinner at a restaurant that was very expensive.
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:40 PM
 
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Almost everybody I have known in my life values fine dining, at least occasionally. The only issue I have seen is whether or not it is affordable to a person.

I have never heard anybody complain that someone treated them dinner at a restaurant that was very expensive.
Again, there is a BIG difference between fine dining for a special occasion- say a birthday, anniversary, graduation, other big milestone, and a run-of-the-mill date. I donít think that gives a person ANY idea about how much you care about them. It just tells them you are willing to spend money frivolously. That is not necessarily a trait many feel is attractive.
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:41 PM
 
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All women do not think alike. Some will assume it's just dinner. Some will think you expect sex even if the dinner is only 20 dollars.

And some men DO think a $20 meal buys sex. LOL
 
Old 08-15-2019, 12:45 PM
 
Location: Canada
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And some men DO think a $20 meal buys sex. LOL
Because otherwise, golddigger.
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