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Old 08-19-2019, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I have a feeling the OP is talking about stupid dating apps. In that case, I think taking first dates to a super fancy restaurant is a bad financial decision. Way too many women use these apps to get free meals. We're talking lining up "dates" every night of the week, taking advantage of poor dudes like the OP. .
Do you have proof that tons of women use dating apps to get free meals? I did online dating for at least a year and very few men do dinner on the first date. Very few. It's mostly coffee or a beer. And most women I know are well capable of affording their own food to eat. They aren't starving to death waiting for a man to feed them.

 
Old 08-19-2019, 03:59 PM
 
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Do you have proof that tons of women use dating apps to get free meals? I did online dating for at least a year and very few men do dinner on the first date. Very few. It's mostly coffee or a beer. And most women I know are well capable of affording their own food to eat. They aren't starving to death waiting for a man to feed them.
No dinner date here either. Oh wait. Except the one I paid for.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 04:11 PM
 
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.

Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?

If you're taking a woman to a restaurant like that in your first few dates, you are a rank amateur.

Restaurants like that are for special occasions. Anniversaries. Birthdays. Promotions. Popping the question. Things like that. Not trying to impress a woman. The only thing it does is raise eyebrows and suspicions.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 04:24 PM
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Location: colorado springs, CO
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.

Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
I only made it to page 3 of replies but my answer is NO. I'm curious as to why people are questioning your question or your choice of locations.

Apparently, I'm not representative of most women. Well, I knew that already. I actually used to be a call-girl but I wouldn't assume this about you. My life's experience has left me with a very high opinion of men. I'll continue reading the rest of the thread now.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 04:28 PM
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Location: colorado springs, CO
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So, no woman is going to be flattered that you took her to a classy and expensive restaurant?

Hmm... Sounds kind of fishy to me.
YES ... of course, I would be. WTF is going on here? I feel like a little grey alien or something
 
Old 08-19-2019, 04:40 PM
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Location: colorado springs, CO
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Whew, finally made it to page 17 & it's confirmed: I must be an alien.

I would be flattered & I wouldn't presume anyone had expectations.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Texas
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If you're taking a woman to a restaurant like that in your first few dates, you are a rank amateur.

Restaurants like that are for special occasions. Anniversaries. Birthdays. Promotions. Popping the question. Things like that. Not trying to impress a woman. The only thing it does is raise eyebrows and suspicions.
This.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 08:50 PM
 
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.

Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
You can stop at your a man so literally only one thing on your mind regardless of mcds or French laundry.
 
Old 08-19-2019, 08:59 PM
 
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Whew, finally made it to page 17 & it's confirmed: I must be an alien.

I would be flattered & I wouldn't presume anyone had expectations.
Sorry you don’t get to be the alien. I don’t agree with you all of the time, but I see your point here. I’ve been on a lot of dinner dates, I’ve never had to give it up for prime rib or catch of the day. When the menu says: “ask” instead of listing the price, I know it’s not going to be $6.99.

It’s flattering. It’s very nice, I say thank you.

I was going to eat dinner anyway, so if I decide I’m inviting a guy and paying, I don’t expect him to be in tiptop performance after that 5 course meal, either —it’s just dinner for chrissakes.
 
Old Yesterday, 12:23 AM
 
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If you're taking a woman to a restaurant like that in your first few dates, you are a rank amateur.

Restaurants like that are for special occasions. Anniversaries. Birthdays. Promotions. Popping the question. Things like that. Not trying to impress a woman. The only thing it does is raise eyebrows and suspicions.
You are projecting your socioeconomic class on someone else. Someone high income taking a dinner date in a high end NYC restaurant could be like me taking someone to an Olive Garden.
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