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Old Yesterday, 04:17 PM
 
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and donate the remaining amount to a good cause.
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Old Yesterday, 04:59 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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So what if it's the very affluent guy and that Michelin star restaurant where you have to make reservations weeks in advance? The guy had someone cancel and needs a fill-in dinner date rather than cancel. Your only ask is to be a pleasant dinner companion.


Someone that affluent doesn't need to put on a show.
I would probably say that I'm so very sorry, but I've got plans...or something.

There are a number of things about that scenario, that would make me anxious. The question of what he wants in return doesn't even have to factor into it. My eating habits and aversion to fancy dress (in a "vanilla" context at least) would probably top the list. I wouldn't even be sure which fork to use for what. I'd rather avoid the whole thing, and go to some funky little Mom & Pop with an open mic night, with my friends.

Which is what I've been trying to say...just because the dude isn't doing something objectively wrong doesn't mean it would be right for me.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:49 PM
 
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So what if it's the very affluent guy and that Michelin star restaurant where you have to make reservations weeks in advance? The guy had someone cancel and needs a fill-in dinner date rather than cancel. Your only ask is to be a pleasant dinner companion.


Someone that affluent doesn't need to put on a show.
He didn’t know he was putting on a show. That’s a puzzling concept.

I don’t think it has anything to do with one’s need to “present” or be worthy of anything other than that’s where they wanted to go.

It does seem The Original Post has been answered though: yes some woman will think you expect something, whether you did or not. Almost a kind of reverse-snobbery.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:52 PM
 
Location: southern california
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Yes you have set the stage for what follows
No sex lots of expensive outings
 
Old Yesterday, 06:03 PM
 
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Yes you have set the stage for what follows
No sex lots of expensive outings
See now, it isnít either or. I have just as much fun at a food truck festival. Itís the experience. What contributes to the experience is the company Im with and my surroundings. Iím not easily impressed, when I am, the price of food wasnít the deciding factor.
 
Old Yesterday, 07:30 PM
 
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You are projecting your socioeconomic class on someone else. Someone high income taking a dinner date in a high end NYC restaurant could be like me taking someone to an Olive Garden.

Let's not play class warrior. The term 'very expensive' is a relative matter based largely on where the OP lives and what is considered a normal expense for dinner out. In a city where all the restaurants can be expensive by the standards of someone in a poor part of the country, taking someone to a 'very expensive' place would likely mean some over-the-top place that uses gold foil as an ingredient.
 
Old Yesterday, 08:18 PM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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It has been almost a week since OP's last post. Is he still pondering the question?
It looks like spending lots of money on a dinner doesn't guarantee sex...
Is a woman more likely to be intimate with a man early on in a relationship if he spends a lot of money on her?

I wonder if OP is (still) married...
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Old Yesterday, 08:25 PM
 
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It has been almost a week since OP's last post. Is he still pondering the question?
It looks like spending lots of money on a dinner doesn't guarantee sex...
Is a woman more likely to be intimate with a man early on in a relationship if he spends a lot of money on her?

I wonder if OP is (still) married...
Or he's too busy with the you know....
 
Old Yesterday, 09:32 PM
 
Location: East Coast of the United States
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At this point, if I went on a date with a man and he were either far more (obviously) wealthy than I, or far less so, I would not feel comfortable.
It seems a little strange to me that a normal guy would not feel awkward asking a woman out on a date if he didn't make a substantial amount of money.

You would think that he would lack the confidence to get into a relationship, unless they were just being friends.
 
Old Today, 05:25 AM
 
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.

Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
Gee, it really depends.

Do you pick her up in a Bugatti, while wearing your giraffe-leather shoes?
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