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Old 08-14-2019, 10:47 AM
 
Location: Tyler, TX
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Interesting question. I always kept it at a more quiet place, easy and casual where we could just be ourselves. What crosses a woman’s mind is a mystery though, so I’m interested.

 
Old 08-14-2019, 10:49 AM
 
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.

Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
She may, but she'll KNOW you are an idiot.
 
Old 08-14-2019, 10:49 AM
 
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What about 2nd or 3rd date?
Also no. Unless this is a sugar daddy kind of situation, I just can't imagine anyone spending that kind of money that soon. Or really, ever. But maybe it's more common in the NY or Hollywood socialite scene?
 
Old 08-14-2019, 10:54 AM
 
Location: Massachusetts
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I wouldn't necessarily think he was trying to ensure intimacy, but it would come across that he's trying to impress the woman by displaying his "perceived" (or actual) wealth?


My wife likes a nice dinner and we make a good combined income, but she would slap me silly if I took her to a place that had $200 entrees.
 
Old 08-14-2019, 10:58 AM
 
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What about 2nd or 3rd date?
I am curious about the question behind the question. What are you trying to achieve? Obviously there is no real way to know what any one woman may or may not think about this very expensive meal and your motives for spending on it. It is just as possible that you are trying to NICE her into going out with you. But none of the motives for this look good. So what IS your motive for this consideration?
 
Old 08-14-2019, 11:07 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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It would be downright weird to me on a first date.

On a second or third date, I would assume that he really wanted to impress me, almost desperately so, and not that he was trying to buy sex only (because honestly just getting laid is not something men put THAT kind of effort into, IMO) but that he was truly wanting to lock me down and hoped that I'd be suitably wowed by his extravagance into wanting to be with him.

I would wonder about his self esteem with regard to his personality that he is not comfortable just letting that do the convincing.

I would wonder what his opinion of ME is, that I'd be won over with such a gesture.

I might be willing to accept it if he made it clear that he TRULY loves this restaurant and just wanted a good excuse to enjoy it, and good company to enjoy it with.

I've shelled out hundreds of dollars to include someone in my plans (not just a dinner, usually something like a concert trip involving a stay at a really cool hotel or something) when they were just a friend I really liked, and I wanted good company for something that I was selfishly motivated to enjoy...but simply preferred to enjoy with a companion.

I'd say your best bet is to give some thought to what is your true motivation to do this, and then find a way to communicate that. And if your true motivation is to somehow obligate her to something, whether that is sex or a relationship with you, then reconsider your choices. You cannot buy friends and you cannot buy love, and attempts to do either thing usually result in very hollow connections. Not meaningful ones.
 
Old 08-14-2019, 11:11 AM
 
Location: La lune et les étoiles
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Also no. Unless this is a sugar daddy kind of situation, I just can't imagine anyone spending that kind of money that soon. Or really, ever. But maybe it's more common in the NY or Hollywood socialite scene?
I am curious. Where do some of you live who think that $200 for a nice meal is so outrageous?
 
Old 08-14-2019, 11:11 AM
 
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It would be downright weird to me on a first date.

On a second or third date, I would assume that he really wanted to impress me, almost desperately so...
Yes, this put it better than I did. If I guy shows up on a first date with a dozen roses, I'm not going. It's just trying way too hard.
 
Old 08-14-2019, 11:15 AM
 
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Where do some of you live who think that $200 for a nice meal is so outrageous?
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Old 08-14-2019, 11:21 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I am curious. Where do some of you live who think that $200 for a nice meal is so outrageous?
The OP said $200 per entree, not for the entire meal.

$200 for a meal is not that unusual. $200 per plate is another level.
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