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Old Today, 01:41 AM
 
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My boyfriend insists on paying for almost everything. I feel really bad because I donít expect him to be the one paying all the time. The last three weekend trips we had, I booked the room and paid since I should at least pay for some of the expenses. And yet he still asks me how much I paid so he can pay for it. I told him itís fine and that I am okay spending since itís only fair. Question is do guys like spending money on their girlfriends? Do you think that a guy should always pay in a relationship? Thoughts?

P.S. I had my car broken into recently and my windows were busted. Boyfriend took care of everything and paid for the repairs. He was the one insisted even though he didnít have to.
You just have to have something to complain about? It's not easy to find a man who is the real deal, a true gentleman. Say thank you and be grateful.
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Old Today, 04:25 AM
 
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You just have to have something to complain about? It's not easy to find a man who is the real deal, a true gentleman. Say thank you and be grateful.
The OP has another thread where he asked her to move with him to another state, and she hasnít finished school yet. I think thatís where people were coming from with some of their concerns. There he wanted to be able to pay for a big home with many rooms and couldnít do that in CA.
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Old Today, 08:06 AM
 
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But it's more often that he's the one who pays.

That seems to be the norm so you shouldn't feel like you are any different from other women. Relax.
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Old Today, 08:25 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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Wow I honestly didn't think this thread would generate so many responses. The intent of my post was merely getting other people's opinions regarding whether or not a man should pay in a relationship and if a man actually like spending money on their girlfriends. I just used my relationship as an example.
Right. I just have to say that coming here with "This is happening in my relationship, will everyone tell me how YOU feel about it so that I can know if it's normal or not" is...well, it's silly. And it happens more or less constantly. But it gives us all something to chatter about, which as you can see, many of us haven't a whole lot better to do apparently. lol Here we are.

But not all men are alike, and not all women are alike.

You know how this makes YOU feel. Sometimes uncomfortable. Only you can decide HOW uncomfortable, why, and if it's an issue worth bringing up, or setting some reasonable boundaries over. It's your relationship and it's half your job to work out where you stand.

Only he knows how HE feels. We don't. You can't take the input of a bunch of other men and say, "Well Bob, Joe, and Mark said they feel this way, so you must also." That's obviously not how any of this works. So the only way to get any idea of how he feels, is to ask him...and then listen to what he says. Maybe he'll be honest and maybe not, but it's a whole lot more accurate than projecting the input of strangers upon him, don't you think?
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Old Today, 03:55 PM
 
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You just have to have something to complain about? It's not easy to find a man who is the real deal, a true gentleman. Say thank you and be grateful.
I don’t think I was complaining in this post.
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Old Today, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Fairfax, VA
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...do guys like spending money on their girlfriends?
Yes, at least initially; and when they are behaving in ways that make me want to.

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Do you think that a guy should always pay in a relationship?
No.

I don't care much about money in relationships and have no concerns about paying for things I can readily afford. I will not do so, however, at the expense of my own needs.
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