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Old Yesterday, 03:31 AM
 
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Hey y’all, I broke up with my girlfriend last Thursday (my last thread was the reason why, if you care to read). Essentially the reason was I feel she betrayed me and was not there for me like I was for her throughout the relationship.

When I dumped her, I explained to her that I had a difficult time getting over everything that transpired the last couple weeks. And that I lost trust for her. She understood and just said “ok” to everything I was explaining. Then texted me “no hard feelings, I think this is what’s best. At least for now. Maybe in the future it will be different” I replied “no hard feelings, we had some good times, etc”. I then went completely no contact.

The next day, I got a missed call from her. Did not answer. she texted me saying “I’ve come to the conclusion that I might be getting fired for what you did at the baseball game” (from last thread), but texted me that when she was with her manipulative “friend”(main reason I broke it off). Did not respond, still NC.

On Sunday she spent the day with our mutual friend (my brothers gf, who she picked up from my place), asked her why I wasn’t home (my car wasn’t in the driveway). Also told this friend that she’s looking for places to rent in my city (she lives 30min from me right now). I still stay NC.

I haven’t heard from her since. I’m starting to miss her. I still feel hurt over what she did, but I know we can work through it. She never took my worries seriously when we were together, so I feel If I break NC she won’t change. I wish she would reach out to me because although I’m the dumper, I had a good reason to do it. I lost all trust for her. I’m off work for 3 weeks (we work together), and trying to find ways to cope/not think about her.

When I broke up with her, in my head it was for good. Made sure my brothers gf gave her all
Her stuff back, I deleted all social media (so I won’t have to see her), etc.

Thoughts on what’s going through her head?
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Old Yesterday, 03:39 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Hey y’all, I broke up with my girlfriend last Thursday (my last thread was the reason why, if you care to read). Essentially the reason was I feel she betrayed me and was not there for me like I was for her throughout the relationship.

When I dumped her, I explained to her that I had a difficult time getting over everything that transpired the last couple weeks. And that I lost trust for her. She understood and just said “ok” to everything I was explaining. Then texted me “no hard feelings, I think this is what’s best. At least for now. Maybe in the future it will be different” I replied “no hard feelings, we had some good times, etc”. I then went completely no contact.

The next day, I got a missed call from her. Did not answer. she texted me saying “I’ve come to the conclusion that I might be getting fired for what you did at the baseball game” (from last thread), but texted me that when she was with her manipulative “friend”(main reason I broke it off). Did not respond, still NC.

On Sunday she spent the day with our mutual friend (my brothers gf, who she picked up from my place), asked her why I wasn’t home (my car wasn’t in the driveway). Also told this friend that she’s looking for places to rent in my city (she lives 30min from me right now). I still stay NC.

I haven’t heard from her since. I’m starting to miss her. I still feel hurt over what she did, but I know we can work through it. She never took my worries seriously when we were together, so I feel If I break NC she won’t change. I wish she would reach out to me because although I’m the dumper, I had a good reason to do it. I lost all trust for her. I’m off work for 3 weeks (we work together), and trying to find ways to cope/not think about her.

When I broke up with her, in my head it was for good. Made sure my brothers gf gave her all
Her stuff back, I deleted all social media (so I won’t have to see her), etc.

Thoughts on what’s going through her head?
Nothing you need to concern yourself with.

Maybe YOU should read your previous thread.

I Feel so betrayed by my girlfriend. Am I overreacting?

You’ve been doing great. Keep going. Don’t turn around and set yourself up for drama.

Continue the NC. DO NOT CAVE!
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Old Yesterday, 05:15 AM
Status: "I don't FEEL tardy." (set 13 days ago)
 
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Who cares what's going through her head? Jeez, man, you have here a 'girl' who more or less ditched you because a new Shiny Object caught her attention. And you miss her.

I hope you do get entangled with her again. Sometimes the best way to learn your lesson is to learn it the hard way.
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Old Yesterday, 05:15 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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I don't think you're really missing her. I think you're missing having a girl to hang out with and reading/hoping that the missed calls and questions and moving mean something.

She's shown you who she is. Just reread your last post. Nothing to work through there. She is who she is. Again, reread it and try to imagine your advice if a friend was telling you the story.

And btw--didn't read anything about a baseball incident, but blaming you for her potential firing is just immature.

I also hope you learn that you should not date people with whom you work. It's lots of drama.
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Old Yesterday, 05:34 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Just your emotions effin with you.

Push through it. You'll be fine.
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Old Yesterday, 06:05 AM
 
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She texted you after you went NC to tell you that she may get fired over something that you allegedly did? That's clearly a manipulative move on her part to get you to contact her.

She's trying to find a place to live closer to you after you've gone NC? Again, manipulation.

The fact that she would do all of the stuff she did before you broke up (from your last post), plus this stuff she is doing now just proves what a manipulative and selfish person she is. You don't need that kind of person in your life anymore.

You did the right thing by breaking up with her and not contacting her. Don't second guess yourself. Just stay busy with other things and you'll see that you'll miss her a lot less when you realize that she wasn't a very good person and that you're way better off without her in your life.
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Old Yesterday, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Continental Europe
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Nothing you need to concern yourself with.

Maybe YOU should read your previous thread.

I Feel so betrayed by my girlfriend. Am I overreacting?

You’ve been doing great. Keep going. Don’t turn around and set yourself up for drama.

Continue the NC. DO NOT CAVE!
^ ^ ^

I agree with BirdieBelle

This woman had no loyalty whatsoever towards you, why would you want to keep her around.
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Old Yesterday, 08:32 AM
 
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Oh, the drama! Continue to go without contact and do things you enjoy. Soon you will find you miss her less and less. Move on.
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Old Yesterday, 08:41 AM
 
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I didn't read your previous thread. You miss her because people want what they cannot have. You felt like you had to break up with her, but that wasn't the outcome you wanted. Your head told you to break up with her. Society told you to break up with her. (What we judge to be appropriate and in appropriate behavior) This is an ego thing, she didn't behave right from what I gather, and you wanted a different outcome. This is ego. Let this go the way it will go. I agree stay no contact. You only know what you've got when it's gone- that needs to kick in for her. I think it had been said this is an issue of loyalty. The reason disloyalty is wrong is you can feel it in your stomach. It feels awful. (I assume you felt this, however your body experiences it) listen to that bad feeling and nothing else. Breaking NC anytime soon will likely result in a feeling like that again.
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Old Yesterday, 10:07 AM
Status: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt ..." (set 13 days ago)
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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I think you just miss you and her doing the dance with no pants.


Every week it will fade until eventually she's just a memory in the past.


Go do something fun in your three weeks off.
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