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Old Yesterday, 08:02 AM
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Originally Posted by mysticaltyger View Post
a wealth of research strongly suggests that marriage is good for children. Those who live with their biological parents do better in school and are less likely to get pregnant or arrested. They have lower rates of suicide, achieve higher levels of education and earn more as adults. Meanwhile, children who spend time in single-parent families are more likely to misbehave, get sick, drop out of high school and be unemployed.
I get that- I listened to a Planet Money podcast with a researcher who did a really rigorous study and found that, even adjusting for economic differences, kids in intact households with married parents did better in school. I really believe that living with 2 parents in a healthy marriage is best for kids. When the marriage is UNHEALTHY, it's a different decision.

As my dear second husband used to say, "It's better to come from a broken home than to live in one".
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Old Yesterday, 08:14 AM
Location: Dunwoody,GA
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Here's the deal. Your parents don't have to live inside your marriage. Sure, they may be disappointed if you divorce, but, honestly SO WHAT? Would they REALLY prefer that you are miserable every single day of your life than that you divorce? Indians divorce; it happens, just like it does with non-Indians. Big deal. You need to do what YOU need to do. This man WILL NOT CHANGE. No matter how "nice" you are, how "obedient" you are, or how "submissive" you are. You are his figurative punching bag and that will not change. Your children will be devastated to see their mother as a shell of a woman walking around sad, miserable, and with no self-esteem or self-worth. A divorce would be a blip on the radar of their lives and you being happy single or in a new relationship would be much more of an influence on their lives than the short-term unhappiness following a divorce.

Tough love, but I think you need to hear it.
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Old Today, 04:05 PM
Location: Way up high
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You need to get divorced asap. Sounds like something horrible is coming down the line. I would get out now
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