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Old Today, 05:10 PM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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Deciding that kind and homely trumps unkind and pretty is sensible and mature. There's some truth to the idea that people who aren't good-loooking often put more effort into cultivating other traits and skills. But faking attraction to someone because you want to get something from them, or because you find less attractive people easier to manipulate, is gross. OP sounds like a bit of a user.

 
Old Today, 05:13 PM
 
Location: new to the BA & l o v e it
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Deciding that kind and homely trumps unkind and pretty is sensible and mature. There's some truth to the idea that people who aren't good-loooking often put more effort into cultivating other traits and skills. But faking attraction to someone because you want to get something from them, or because you find less attractive people easier to manipulate, is gross. OP sounds like a bit of a user.
Deciding everyone who is pretty is unkind.....& everyone who is homely is kind.....is not so mature.......
 
Old Today, 05:17 PM
 
Location: Continental Europe
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Deciding that kind and homely trumps unkind and pretty is sensible and mature. There's some truth to the idea that people who aren't good-loooking often put more effort into cultivating other traits and skills. But faking attraction to someone because you want to get something from them, or because you find less attractive people easier to manipulate, is gross. OP sounds like a bit of a user.
So many stereotypes on this thread. I know well-rounded good looking people.
 
Old Today, 05:19 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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Is it possible to date women outside of London, people are more affluent there and there's a high cost of living? And try finding meeting people in other ways. It could be how you're meeting them.
I had the same experience in Brighton, and to a lesser extent back home in Wales (not many attractive women there though.)

Distance is awkward, London is a big place and its an hour+ journey just to leave the city.

My previous GF was from the Philipines though (shes a wealthy Filipina with family in the UK.) Spends her time between there and London.
 
Old Today, 05:22 PM
 
Location: London, U.K.
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Lol...silly...I'm embarrassed for you!!! You can't speak for all women & all dating experiences or all relationships.........

Beautiful women & handsome men fall in love too.........
Yes, I had that once 22 years ago. Messed that up as I was young and stupid.
 
Old Today, 05:33 PM
 
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Deciding everyone who is pretty is unkind.....& everyone who is homely is kind.....is not so mature.......
Yeah, I’d be more crabby if I was ugly.
 
Old Today, 05:42 PM
 
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I’ve been with a lot of conventionally attractive woman and it was always high maintenance and a struggle to keep them happy because they have a ton of options and realize that.

Since then I’ve puprosely dated less attractive woman who are just grateful to be with a good looking guy (There words not mine lol) and do whatever it takes to please me and keep me happy and satisfied.

Im not gonna sit here and say I’m extremely attracted to these woman but they bend over backwards for me and i know they won’t be high maintenance or be looking for the next better option like woman who are I never high demand.
So you’re just using these “less attractive” women? You’re not attracted to them you’re attracted to what they do for you. Make you feel special huh?
 
Old Today, 05:47 PM
 
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I’ve been with a lot of conventionally attractive woman and it was always high maintenance and a struggle to keep them happy because they have a ton of options and realize that.

Since then I’ve puprosely dated less attractive woman who are just grateful to be with a good looking guy (There words not mine lol) and do whatever it takes to please me and keep me happy and satisfied.

Im not gonna sit here and say I’m extremely attracted to these woman but they bend over backwards for me and i know they won’t be high maintenance or be looking for the next better option like woman who are I never high demand.
I think somebody better looking than you has as much power over you as you allow.

Personally, I never allow looks to factor into how much power a person has over me (or under me if that is possible).

I really don't care about looks, more compatibility.

Which is not to say that the women that I date have been dogs. They've generally been pretty good looking.

But they'd have no hold over me because of the aforementioned.

As a matter of fact, worse looking people dump better looking people all the time because of lack of compatibility.

It would almost shock me that someone could think in as simple terms as you do, except...

1) I've seen so many other people who adopt it, not just at this forum, but many others like it.
2) I've though that way myself when I was younger.
 
Old Today, 05:50 PM
 
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I don't go for "high maintenance" women, just the ones I find attractive. But in over a decade of dating now its happened every single time. A decade-plus of this is not simply a coincidence. Nor can it simply be me.
Why not? You are the lowest common denominator.
 
Old Today, 05:54 PM
 
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I have an ex who used to say he was going to only date very obese women after I was 'done with him'. Despite that I never gave him a reason to worry, he was hung up on his friends teasing him about being 'out of his league'.

So a few years later (after I was done with him) I saw his new interest on social media & she was huge but seemed to be very sweet. She obviously thought the sun rose & set on him. He, on the other hand, seemed embarrassed by her & continually downplayed their relationship. I heard through mutual friends that he treated her like crap.

About 6 months later she started posting about her 'post-gastric bypass weight loss journey'. Soon, she was absolutely gorgeous ... and she dumped him.
Good for her. I hate hearing people treating others as subhuman.
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