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Old Today, 04:49 AM
 
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Just because she wasn't attractive doesn't mean you're entitled to a date, she's allowed to be attracted to whomever she is attracted to.
Yes, thanks for stating the obvious ;-) We're not talking dating entitlements... I was replying to the point of whomever I was quoting/replying to and that it made perfect sense.

 
Old Today, 05:07 AM
 
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OP, you seem to have a couple of issues that are causing some insecurities that probably come through to the "attractive" women you want to date. You believe your income and financial situation is poor, and your health is poor. If you are too frail to date for another year as you say, why are you worried about dating now? That shouldn't be a concern at al at this point.

Focus on your health, and improving your financial situation, not necessarily to attract women, but for YOU. When you become more comfortable with yourself, you will be more confident, and attractive to them, but more importantly you will have more self respect.
 
Old Today, 07:26 AM
 
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Yes, thanks for stating the obvious ;-) We're not talking dating entitlements... I was replying to the point of whomever I was quoting/replying to and that it made perfect sense.
Yes, but you made it sound as though she had some nerve being uninterested.
 
Old Today, 07:48 AM
 
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You'd think right? But I'm finding lesser attractive women still wanting the 10s, and yes men have been known to do the same. I had a female friend try to set me up with a chubby gal. She wasn't all that appealing, but for some reason her facial expressions were cute. Plus she was into the same interests I was into. You COULD say were were equals when it came to looks, because I have my physical flaws too.

I figured that since I've been going to the gym, I'd hold my own. I am not 6 feet tall (5'8") and I'm bald, and I don't have the Henry Cavill jawline. My friend told me to go ahead and message her friend on FB because her friend is looking.

I sent her a message, got no response. Tried again...was still ignored. A few days later, I go to my friend and said, "Hey, you're friend...she isn't responding...something wrong on her end". She told me she wasn't physically attracted, and I go, "Hm, has this woman not weighed herself or looked in a mirror lately?!" She isn't all that either. (When I said "either", meant to say she is my equal in looks).

Oh, and on the "you hardly" part.

Recently, I know a guy that I swear is built like George Costanza, wears the frumpy same outfits, even when he goes out. Baggy jeans and polo work shirt and a ball cap. He's got a girlfriend that turns heads. This dudes doesn't trim his nose hairs and has bad breath. Nice guy, but definitely unappealing to the senses. Even HE was surprised that a woman like her, who is a model and professional dancer, would be with him? He himself, claimed himself to be "ugly" and simply got lucky.

I asked someone that knew him and asked, "What does a gorgeous lady like her, see in him?" Answer, "He treats her well".

Well...DUH. LOL Now if all of the other hot women would just appreciate the same thing, they'd wind up with stalky, chubby bald dudes I suppose. j/k

my feeling is not what is on the outside that helps judge a person of value. its the way a person acts towards me or in society

beautiful looking people can be so ugly inside. mean violent, etc.... do they kick the cat when walking in the door or do they bend down to pet the cat. see what I mean. looks mean nothing or should mean nothing but sadly that isn't the way in life. trust me I know im only a 4 at most. men don't want no part of me even tho im clean, well mannered, dress nice, hygene is on target, I bathe daily and oral hygene is normal too.
I always felt if I was better looking more men would look my way. trust me I tried dating sites and the good looking women are the women that got all the hits. sadly I couldn't even attract average looking men. I once set up a profile on a dating site. (one you pay for) with no pic, would start a conversation it would go to phone and only after we formed a friendship online did I send them my pic....



The ONLY women that dated me...were either. 1. Told me expressively that they do not care one iota about looks or 2. preferred personality over looks (kind of the same).

That was the only way I was able to score dates with these ladies, is when they told me they simply didn't care about looks. I actually had a woman tell me she avoids very attractive men because they are known to cheat a lot. So somehow me being average llooking worked in my favor there. lol
Yeah itís not like average or unattractive woman are any more receptive to unattractive guys then good looking woman are.

So if Iím gonna get rejected I might as well go after somebody I find attractive.
 
Old Today, 01:18 PM
 
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I think my original post is self explanatory (provided you take what I'm saying at face value and stop looking for hidden meaning.) And I don't mean "uggos" just average looking women.
With 5'8" you are not a 10 either. So I think alot of women lower their standards for you, too. Just sayin.


I would not date a guy who lowers his standards for me. I have had a date who said "I have a weakness for blondes. I am not really into dark hair" There is really no need to point that out to your dark haired date. I sent him home, go find a blonde.



Some other guys have pointed out that they are not really into tall women. THE END. There are guys that love my long legs - if you don't appreciate what I have to offer, go find someone else.
 
Old Today, 01:29 PM
 
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Why date someone you are not physically attracted to in the 1st place? No....I would not date a man who wasn't attracted to me...& only a doormat with low self esteem would IMO..........
 
Old Today, 02:16 PM
 
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I have a hard time understanding that you didn’t already know the answer to this, seriously it seems as though the answers are 100% “no” because what would that even look like?
“I don’t deserve much and you look like Tom cruise even though he’s supposedly a controlling douche, and that was 30 years ago, but I never found a guy either, so you be my Tom and I’ll be your Kelly.”

You posted you “hate having sex with them”?

Do you think so low of women that it seems some of us may agree, that since we’re ALL about being supported financially by a Provider, of course looks don’t matter enough to not be insulted by some nut who lets us know he thinks we’re not very attractive, but he’ll forgo the pleasurable type of sex, because he feels he needs some kind of warm body, even if he isn’t attracted?

You need help.
 
Old Today, 02:20 PM
 
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With 5'8" you are not a 10 either. So I think alot of women lower their standards for you, too. Just sayin.


I would not date a guy who lowers his standards for me. I have had a date who said "I have a weakness for blondes. I am not really into dark hair" There is really no need to point that out to your dark haired date. I sent him home, go find a blonde.



Some other guys have pointed out that they are not really into tall women. THE END. There are guys that love my long legs - if you don't appreciate what I have to offer, go find someone else.
I agree at his height chances an attractive lady is gonna fall for him when she can get a tall guy is slim to none.

At his height he should go for average looking woman who can’t get good looking tall guys all woman want.
 
Old Today, 02:24 PM
 
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Average women don’t like character flaws anymore than attractive women! Women don’t all have the same desires based on what YOU rate their attractiveness as/or on.

Is there something in the water around here lately?
 
Old Today, 02:51 PM
 
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I agree at his height chances an attractive lady is gonna fall for him when she can get a tall guy is slim to none.

At his height he should go for average looking woman who canít get good looking tall guys all woman want.
There isn't a female alive that needs to settle for a man who doesn't think she is attractive......
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