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Old Today, 08:37 AM
 
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Let's say you're writing a birthday, Christmas, congratulations, etc. card to a romantic interest. How do you sign off? When does "Love, x" become appropriate - and what other options would you consider using?

There's been much discussion of when to say "I love you" in a new relationship - this thread assumes that you haven't yet.
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Old Today, 08:42 AM
 
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Let's say you're writing a birthday, Christmas, congratulations, etc. card to a romantic interest. How do you sign off? When does "Love, x" become appropriate - and what other options would you consider using?

There's been much discussion of when to say "I love you" in a new relationship - this thread assumes that you haven't yet.
In my experience, before heart-eyes emojis etc, that was how you might pave the way to saying "I love you."

I think that if it's someone you've been exclusive with for a while and for whom you have feelings, then signing the card "love" is appropriate.
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Old Today, 08:50 AM
 
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Let's say you're writing a birthday, Christmas, congratulations, etc. card to a romantic interest. How do you sign off? When does "Love, x" become appropriate - and what other options would you consider using?

There's been much discussion of when to say "I love you" in a new relationship - this thread assumes that you haven't yet.
"Love" became a buzz word long time ago and most people say it without meaning it. It's the most misused/abused word in English language.
People "love" food, puppies, movies, gadgets...etc.
Everyone sign a B-Day card at my work with "love", hearts, kisses and other meaningless words.
It's hard to distinguish when people in relationship really mean it, or just say because they want something (usually sex), or because they are expected to say it, of feel pressured by SO.
The seldom one says it, the more it means, IMHO. I don't abuse that word and try to show my love with action, not words.
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Old Today, 09:12 AM
 
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I would never tell a person I love them for the first time in a greeting a card.



If this person is a romantic interest, I'd probably skip the card and hand deliver whatever congratulatory message myself. Flowers, or whatever, and a hug.


If you really want to send that card anyhow, I'd probably go with just a simple "Congratulations!", "Happy Birthday!", "Merry Christmas!", or whatever as my closing sentiment.
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Old Today, 09:17 AM
 
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Depends on a few factors:

Length of time of the relationship.
Two individuals involved
Dynamics of the the relationship

The last two factors being the ones where you two have to make the call yourselves.

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Old Today, 09:43 AM
 
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In my experience, before heart-eyes emojis etc, that was how you might pave the way to saying "I love you."

I think that if it's someone you've been exclusive with for a while and for whom you have feelings, then signing the card "love" is appropriate.
Makes sense.
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Everyone sign a B-Day card at my work with "love", hearts, kisses and other meaningless words.
Has HR seen that card?? Lol. Reminds me of middle school girls using hearts to dot their i's...
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I would never tell a person I love them for the first time in a greeting a card.



If this person is a romantic interest, I'd probably skip the card and hand deliver whatever congratulatory message myself. Flowers, or whatever, and a hug.


If you really want to send that card anyhow, I'd probably go with just a simple "Congratulations!", "Happy Birthday!", "Merry Christmas!", or whatever as my closing sentiment.
So in your view, signing off with "Love" is basically equivalent writing out "I love you"?
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Depends on a few factors:

Length of time of the relationship.
Two individuals involved
Dynamics of the the relationship

The last two factors being the ones where you two have to make the call yourself.
Yes, of course, but not everyone uses or interprets letter closings in the same way (as evidenced by the responses so far) so that's what I was looking for input on.
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Old Today, 10:54 AM
 
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I have friendships that have progressed to the point we will say "Love yah" as a way to say good bye and both parties know what is implied because we know each other that well....

Those are the people I'd sign a card with "Love"... there really isn't any question on what I mean by it.

Other than that... probably wouldn't sign "Love".
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Old Today, 10:56 AM
 
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So in your view, signing off with "Love" is basically equivalent writing out "I love you"?

I'm saying it's close enough that I wouldn't take the chance... and if you DO love them, a greeting card wouldn't be my first approach to that topic.


I also have to be very transparent here and say that I have a long history of dating women who are intellectually over my pay grade, who often think things over in extreme detail in ways I would have never imagined, and have trained me that words really do matter. So... No need to muddy any water with the L word when practically any other phrase achieves the same end in this circumstance, which I assume, is just to show them you're thinking about them on whatever special day it may be.


So, TLDR: Send a card, say something nice which is not "Love", same goal achieved, no drama.
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Old Today, 11:46 AM
 
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Just because they say "I love you" , doesn't mean they mean it. Believe me I know.
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Old Today, 04:02 PM
 
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"Love" became a buzz word long time ago and most people say it without meaning it. It's the most misused/abused word in English language.
People "love" food, puppies, movies, gadgets...etc.
Everyone sign a B-Day card at my work with "love", hearts, kisses and other meaningless words.
It's hard to distinguish when people in relationship really mean it, or just say because they want something (usually sex), or because they are expected to say it, of feel pressured by SO.
The seldom one says it, the more it means, IMHO. I don't abuse that word and try to show my love with action, not words.
I've always thought the same thing about starting letters with "Dear So-and-So..." It's just an accepted way of doing it, but who really tells random people that they're dear to them? It's such an archaic term.

I sign things with "Love" to non-romantic people, like family members, etc., but I would never do it with a romantic interest until we were already a "thing." I would just sign my name.
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