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Old Yesterday, 08:37 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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She currently knows, we just don’t have an official date yet. But I can tell you, I’m going to be seeing her again soon. How soon? We’ll see & no I don’t think I’ll have to wait another 6 weeks. We’ll see each really soon.
That's up to you, you know.

Right now I'm not sure she hasn't had second thoughts and is starting to put you off with that, "I'll see when I'm free..." thing.

If she works an hourly job, she has to know her schedule for this weekend unless her manager just sucks. So you need to pick a day and throw it out there with specific plans and a time so she can say yes or no and y'all can get this show on the road. Otherwise y'all are still "just talking."
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Old Yesterday, 08:53 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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He IS 30, though, which, while young relative to many of us here, is plenty old enough to know NOT to waste almost 2 months texting "hey" to a woman and then blurting out "I wanna make something happen with you sexually..." the day after their first date.
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Wouldn't have believed it, if I hadn't seen it on CD-R!
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Old Yesterday, 08:55 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Wouldn't have believed it, if I hadn't seen it on CD-R!
The good news is he's asking for advice and feedback.

Antwuan, what do you really want to happen? Are you interested in a relationship? You want to be in love and all that?

Or do you just want another FWB?
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Old Yesterday, 08:57 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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That's up to you, you know.

Right now I'm not sure she hasn't had second thoughts and is starting to put you off with that, "I'll see when I'm free..." thing.

If she works an hourly job, she has to know her schedule for this weekend unless her manager just sucks. So you need to pick a day and throw it out there with specific plans and a time so she can say yes or no and y'all can get this show on the road. Otherwise y'all are still "just talking."
Why is it necessary to micro-manage a 30-year-old's courtship process to this ridiculous extent?!

OP, did you attend a boys' high school, and miss out on social skills training, or something? Or is what we're seeing here, the effect of growing up with an internet device in one's hand at all times?

Somebody help me put this in perspective, please. I'm struggling to get my mind around this.
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Old Yesterday, 08:59 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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The good news is he's asking for advice and feedback.

Antwuan, what do you really want to happen? Are you interested in a relationship? You want to be in love and all that?

Or do you just want another FWB?
This is a key question. Maybe the OP hasn't ever had a real relationship yet, and only relates to engaging with women via his FWB experience....?

You're handling this expertly, as always, BB.
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Old Yesterday, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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This is a key question. Maybe the OP hasn't ever had a real relationship yet, and only relates to engaging with women via his FWB experience....?

You're handling this expertly, as always, BB.
Thank, Ruth

I don't think his experiences are the typical 30-year-old's experiences. He's trying to figure it all out.

But yeah, knowing your goal will help us help you OP.
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Old Yesterday, 09:53 AM
 
Location: Decatur, GA
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The good news is he's asking for advice and feedback.

Antwuan, what do you really want to happen? Are you interested in a relationship? You want to be in love and all that?

Or do you just want another FWB?
Trying to figure things out & see where goes but the way things are going I’d be open & interested in a “Relationship” someday & being with her & time will tell but our connection is pretty good right now.

She told me last night that she feels a “Connection” with me. The majority of my texts/our texts are about getting to know her & each other, I know I said I wanted to make something happen with her sexually but outside of that the sex talk has been limited.
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Old Yesterday, 10:11 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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She told me last night that she feels a “Connection” with me. The majority of my texts/our texts are about getting to know her & each other, I know I said I wanted to make something happen with her sexually but outside of that the sex talk has been limited.
Sounds good.

Hopefully you two get together this weekend. You need some momentum here.
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Old Yesterday, 12:43 PM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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After she said she wanna take things so slow with me yesterday I replied with Understandable.

I’m actually texting her right now, should I tell her that I’m willing to take things slow & not pressure her into anything?
if you keep bringing it up it will sound like you are obsessed with sex.

and this female is human, correct ?
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Texting/Talking

But we were also trying to find time to plan something when were both free because some days I work & she’s off, some days she works & I’m off. I have more a set schedule than she does.
this seems like a game of whoever is the least interested wins. its impossible that two persons cant link up for a 10 minute coffee in about 2 months.


i wanna' give birdiebelle all the points but this site says i have to spread some reputation around first.

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Old Yesterday, 05:14 PM
 
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It shouldn't be noteworthy. It should be the way it is done.


if its the way it should be done, and many people arent doing it, then its noteworthy. you should study before taking a math test. hence reminders from teachers and parents to study. you should drive sober, hence reminders not to drink and drive

if he stated he wanted tomeet her and have sex with her on the first or second date, people would be yammering about consent and possible lack of it
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