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Old 08-25-2019, 09:31 PM
 
Location: Decatur, GA
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Ok I’m talking to a new Female very pretty woman different from the other females I recently talked about, she’s not a Arizona woman in fact she stays right down the street from me. Technically she’s not that new because she was a coworker of mine from like April or May until July of this year, but things are starting to pickup as if she’s new to me. Ok I’m about to give you all the story & let you all know where I’m at with her, she’s 25 (F) I’m 30, on July 6th (Saturday) I asked her for her number at work & she gave it to me. She told me she had been wondering if I were ever going to ask her for her number, I told her eventually I was going to. Also everyday up until July 6th I would just say “Hey” to her, yes there were conversations occasionally in between time but mostly I would just say “Hey” and she told me that she always thought I had a crush on her which I told her that’s true. So on July 6th I texted her immediately that night, she wanted me to so she could code my name in her phone that’s what happened on that day/night. Ever since July 6th We’ve been texting each other & we had our 1st date on August 22nd (This Past Thursday). On August 23rd I told her I’d like to make something happen with her sexually if it was ok with her the next time we chill because technically we did chill but it was at another coworker’s place (Female) & we had already been talking about chilling with each other (alone) just have to find time alone (that’s what she told me) & she agreed. Today I asked what she thought about me because I was just curious & just wondering, she said she really likes me, she just wanna take things slow & do them right.

Questions:

When I see her again or chill should I back off a little and not flirt too much to lead to sex even though she agreed to the sex? Just take it slow?

What do you think she mean’t by taking it slow? Because when I 1st saw her message I thought she was referring to a relationship.

What are your thoughts on everything I just said about where I stand with her?

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Old 08-25-2019, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Did you say the words “I would like to make something happen with you sexually?”
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Old 08-25-2019, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Decatur, GA
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Did you say the words I would like to make something happen with you sexually?
Yes just like that.
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Old 08-25-2019, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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So, she clearly told you she wants to have sex next time you hang out? If so? What are you here for? to undermine yourself?? lol
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Old 08-25-2019, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Yes just like that.
Well that was kinda clumsy and forward. Luckily it sounds like she isnt bailing out.

You cant just be like, I wanna be on you. Sounds like she wants to get to know you, have you get to know her. Court and DATE each other, not just jump each other.
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Old 08-25-2019, 09:52 PM
 
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Dude.

Just.

No.
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Old 08-25-2019, 09:55 PM
 
Location: Decatur, GA
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So, she clearly told you she wants to have sex next time you hang out? If so? What are you here for? to undermine yourself?? lol
I just wanted to see what you all thought about the situation & what she really meant by taking things slow.
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Old 08-25-2019, 10:01 PM
 
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getting consent is great, Mod cut.

Last edited by PJSaturn; Yesterday at 12:07 PM.. Reason: Rude sarcasm.
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Old 08-25-2019, 10:24 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Dude.

Just.

No.
Yup. One date, and you're already telling her you want to have sex with her?

OP, you need to go back to the drawing board. You're already in over your head. I can't believe you're asking, "What does she mean by taking it slow".

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Old 08-25-2019, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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It’s great that you found someone local who is into you.

Just draw things out a bit and build on that attraction.
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