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Old Yesterday, 01:20 AM
 
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Dating just a month and she is already planning a cruise trip with you?
Lol... now she sounds crazy.
Maybe she had already paid for the cruise before her previous relationship ended and is looking for someone to go with her.

Offering to purchase extra season tickets to our NFL teams games this year. Buying $100 tickets to a concert WITHOUT asking you, planning a cruise trip for next year with someone she just met - sounds pretty patronizing and controlling to me.
She IS desperate, and showing off. Does she think that she can buy you?
Are you low life/low income guy she wants to impress? Did you told her that you have 2 kids, one still in HS? Is she taking them into consideration? Planning weekends without asking if you are going to see your kid(s) at that time?

Don't know about you, but that wouldn't be my type of a gal...

BTW: you didn't say anything about her character and appearance, yet. Is she attractive? Easy to talk to, interesting, fun, good listener, nice to others, any common interests? Did you met any of her friends? Had sex with her?

I do pretty well income wise and can buy all those things she did by myself. I thought it may have been controlling/overbearing as well. I haven't met any of her family or friends yet. I'm not sure how she treats others and honestlt she doesnt seem like a good listener. I do wonder if her last mate was a user, because she has mentioned not wanting to take care of a man. But then she goes and offers to buy this stuff LOL. I can't say any common interests as yet, and she even sleeps late and I am an early riser. We have only met once in person at a casino( first time we met and we exchanged numbers). She looks nice in the face but is overweight.
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Old Yesterday, 01:56 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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You don't sound too impressed with her, and I have feeling that she is very much into "Me" - and rather talks about herself than listen what others have to say. It could be that her "not wanting to take care of a man" means that she wants the whole attention and is not willing to give anything back.
Her monetary "offerings" and lack of consideration could have something to do with egocentrism, manipulations and wanting to be in charge. That might be a problem for a strong man who knows what he wants and look for an equal relationship.
Her flashing the money could also be triggered by low self esteem. Who knows. Either way, I am not impressed with her either.
If you already question her behavior it means that she isn't the one.
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Old Yesterday, 01:58 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Normally this would be a red flag, but without knowing her it's impossible to say for sure. Context is everything.
Could be that she's a crazy psycho, could be that she's planning to go anyway and would just like some company.

Alone, not red flag worthy, but you know when you approach an intersection and all lights are flashing amber so you proceed with caution ?
Yeah, that
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Old Yesterday, 04:08 AM
 
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A little more information on her. She's 40, no kids, never been married.
Uh-oh.

Thatís not good.

Time to find out about what her relationships have been like in the passed.
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Old Yesterday, 04:13 AM
 
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I do pretty well income wise and can buy all those things she did by myself. I thought it may have been controlling/overbearing as well. I haven't met any of her family or friends yet. I'm not sure how she treats others and honestlt she doesnt seem like a good listener. I do wonder if her last mate was a user, because she has mentioned not wanting to take care of a man. But then she goes and offers to buy this stuff LOL. I can't say any common interests as yet, and she even sleeps late and I am an early riser. We have only met once in person at a casino( first time we met and we exchanged numbers). She looks nice in the face but is overweight.
Yeah, this confirms it for me.

Best you break it off or it will get real ugly down the road.
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Old Yesterday, 06:04 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Some women see what they want and go for it. Lots of widowers are remarried within a year of their wives death. Some women dont waste time when they what they want, they go for it. Enjoy being the pursuee for a change.

But check her out, family history etc. Dont get swept off your feet, lol.
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Old Yesterday, 06:32 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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We have only met once in person at a casino( first time we met and we exchanged numbers).

Yikes.....I assumed you've been out and met several times. Only meeting once and this stuff? That starts to get into the scary category. Because you don't seem that drawn to her, I'd just end it now before it becomes all rabbit in the pot.
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Old Yesterday, 06:36 AM
 
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I'm a 43 year old divorced male with a 21 and 15 year old. I met a female on the 4th of July. About a week after meeting she offered to purchase extra season tickets to our NFL teams games this year. She also bought $100 dollar tickets for both of us to a concert for this coming weekend without asking first. Just a month in, she says she wants to go on a cruise next year and asked me to go with her. She stated she was in a fifteen year habitation relationship until April this year. She said his infidelity ended the relationship. I'm worried why she's moving so fast and even wonder if she's not over him and trying to make him jealous even. Am I reading too much into all of this?
It sounds like she is moving too fast FOR YOU.
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Old Yesterday, 06:50 AM
 
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Does it really matter what her deal is? You've made it pretty clear you're not into this pairing so just tell her thanks but no thanks and move on. No reason to belabor the whole thing.
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Old Yesterday, 07:00 AM
 
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You've only met ONCE? What happened with the concert?
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