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Old 09-03-2019, 07:13 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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You either can accept it or you don't. Certainly don't expect them or coerce them to change just for you. That sets the tone in a relationship that can build resentment. If they change (in this case.. quit smoking), it should be for themselves. No one is perfect and what imperfections you can and cannot accept greatly depends on what you and they bring the table.

I'm not saying that you should settle.... You can certainly continue chasing that "perfect" person... fret over every little aspect of another life.. .sometimes trivial stuff (not saying smoking is trivial)... the question is to what extent? how many missed opportunities?
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Old 09-03-2019, 07:22 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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That's kind of hilarious. I've never heard of someone take up smoking for that reason. Eating, yes. Exercising, yes. Serial hook-ups, yes. Even popping pills. But I haven't personally known anyone to decide to smoke as a result of stress.

I bet she will quit, since it was probably just a distracting behavior more than anything. Or else it's one of the funniest lies ever told!

Hopefully "smokers stink!" debate will die down.
I was a social cigar smoker. Maybe 5 the entire year.. usually to celebrate or with a nice stiff drink.

I started smoking regularly (both cigars and cigarettes) after my separation.... more so now than ever... I've since switched to low dose nicotine vape because it doesn't leave a lingering smell on my persons. It also allows me to control the dosage of nicotine (I've transition to the on the lowest over the counter dose).

As to marijuana question prior, yeh... as one who does smoke weed on a occasion it does have a much stronger pungent smell than tobacco. I doubt anyone who doesn't like cigarette smoke is going to be able to tolerate marijuana.

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Old 09-03-2019, 09:24 PM
 
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I hate the smell of smoke but I don't mind if someone vapes
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Old 09-03-2019, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Evanston & Lake Forest, Illinois
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I used to smoke one or two cigarettes per week. I don't understand why people have developed such an irrational hatred for smokers. Now, I think that someone smoking to the point that it negatively impacts everything in their daily life has a significant problem. However, I don't get why someone would refuse to date someone because they smoke occasionally. I mean, really...
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Old 09-04-2019, 12:53 AM
 
Location: D.C.
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I used to smoke one or two cigarettes per week. I don't understand why people have developed such an irrational hatred for smokers. Now, I think that someone smoking to the point that it negatively impacts everything in their daily life has a significant problem. However, I don't get why someone would refuse to date someone because they smoke occasionally. I mean, really...
I don't hate smokers, but I hate cigarette smoke and I'll do everything in my power to avoid it. I remember when I moved here a music venue which I frequent often allowed smoking. When I got home, everything I had on smelled and I had to throw it in the laundry. Thankfully, they've been smoke-free for about 15 years now. People refuse to date others for things much more trivial than smoking and I rarely see any complaints. I've seen just about everything listed on here. In the grand scheme, smoking is a pretty big deal whether it's a few cigarettes a week or a pack. The bottom line is people can refuse to date anyone for whatever reason they choose whether it's smoking, drinking, eye color, hair or lack thereof, lack of common interests, etc.
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Old 09-04-2019, 01:57 AM
 
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Ask her...it's the rocket science approach, I know, but it often works.

If it's a dealbreaker, she dumps you.
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Old 09-04-2019, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Old 09-04-2019, 04:49 PM
 
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The smell of marijuana smoke makes my stomach turn. Plus, I cannot even be around the stuff since what I do for a living is safety sensitive. In the event of a random **** test, even having the results come back positive from being around a person who smokes it will result in being terminated from the job.
You won't test positive from second hand smoke unless you're locked in a closet for hours and somebody is continously pumping mj smoke into your face.
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Old Yesterday, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Between West Chester and Chester, PA
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You won't test positive from second hand smoke unless you're locked in a closet for hours and somebody is continously pumping mj smoke into your face.
The times I've been around heavy usage were the times I went to a reggae concert. Everybody except me is smoking. I've had some nasty hotbox hangovers.
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Old Yesterday, 08:08 AM
 
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Exactly. Logging in just to read this thread...
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