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Old 09-02-2019, 03:35 PM
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Sometimes a break up is necessary .

It has been more than 6 months.

There are moments when I feel indifferent. There are moments when I feel that I have moved on. Yet there are some moments when my chest aches and that person's image occupied my mind overwhelmingly.

I am too tired from putting up barrier and distracting myself ...... exhausted from blocking my feeling and staying angry at him.

Tonight, I am letting all those barriers down and found that I am no longer angry at him. I wish that he will be happy, no matter who he is with or what he is doing.

I wish the same for me too.

Has anyone else experience this?
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Old 09-02-2019, 06:58 PM
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For me, it has only been 2 weeks since we broke up. Long story short, it completely ended by her telling me that she cheated on me. There are moments where she pops in my head and I feel sad. I'm still angry that she treated me the way she did but I'm happy it ended. I feel like there is a huge weight off my shoulders and I can be happy again. I haven't changed my routine, I still work out, go out and do the things that I love doing.

Not gonna lie, I don't know if I wish that she will be happy. Sometimes, I want her to feel what I felt. I know that's not healthy but thats the stage I am at now. Hopefully, I will be able to let all the barriers down like you did.
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Old 09-02-2019, 07:21 PM
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Is this the guy you sent that lengthy letter to...and he liked another woman?
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Old 09-03-2019, 06:11 AM
Location: Aberdeen
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Proud for you KitKat... Good for you. What a huge emotional step forward. With a heart change like that, I see great happiness in your future!
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Old Today, 11:56 AM
Location: Martinsburg, West Virginia
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Good for you, OP. I miss my Special Pal. We met in our first semester of nursing school. She was the second person in my life that I have loved romantically. It did not work between us and I do not know why. I want her to find happiness. She's good people and ... I hope that happiness is something that she finds. I, too, am grieving. I go through the stages where I am at turns angry, indifferent, pleading with God, accepting what happened (or ... didn't happen), and some denial ... all I need to do is wait some more. I miss my Special Pal. I still love her.
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Old Today, 05:35 PM
Location: Texas
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Yes, I've been through this and hypnotherapy can help you get past it. After a few sessions, you won't feel the same way about the person anymore. You will still have the memories but you won't have the same emotional reaction to them.
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