Originally Posted by artsyguy
OMG you are in graduate school?? and Law School. WOW. Men really do mature at much slower rates. That is so sad.
But then again, narcissistic people who don't prefer relationships will find out in their older age how much they missed out on. You can decide to have that magic moment last longer than one night by committing to some form of relationship (no I am not talking about being connected at the hip) or you can just go about using women that want to be used and then ditched, the magical good feeling only lasts for several hours because of your decision to not committ or stay friends. Your choice!!
You want to talk about childishness and imaturity when you're basically egging me on into a battle of: "Who is more mature than the other."
Rather than dumb down to your level I will tell you this. Hopefully you can gain an "understanding" that not everyone who lives like this is "immature."
All of us at the house, you know the "immature and narcissistic" ones, may "play the same game" but not all of us do the same exact things, and the lives we live are the result of different reasons.
I for one am not into being in a relationship right now because being a first year law student tends to complicate any time a relationship would ask for. Currently my life consists of reading books and staring at my laptop doing legal research or briefing cases. During the summer I will have to live in L.A. and work at least 60 hours a week. fun. Ive pretty much made a vow to myself that getting married before Im done with school is a no-no. Although I realize that I could try to find someone compatible, I just dont care for it right now. I want to get my life in gear before I start committing into a relationship. Whether that be in 1 or 4 years, how is this immature?
One of the other guys, thats not Chris, is open to relationships. He tends to date more often. Had a few relationships that lasted about a month. Hasnt found the special one. In the meanwhile, he's all up for casual sex.
The other one I dont know what hes doing. Sounds like he'd be up for a relationship. But Ive never seen him go on more than 3 dates with the same girl.
I just dont understand, and frankly I believe it to be ignorant, to say that someone is immature based on being promiscuis.
Originally Posted by artsyguy
settle down? We arn't talking about marriage. We are talking about respecting women. You don't use them for sex and then ditch them. It's a bad habit. Not all singles do that sort of junk.
I'm not saying he can't have hook ups. I just think that is sooo immature. Reflects an inability to commit and a fear of intimacy. A definite weakness.
Again with the immaturity. Anyways, I would like to know where disrespect is. You argument is again conclusory.
Just because a woman is promiscuis, doesnt mean that she is a constant sponge of disrespect. Women have the same needs that men do. And just because a guy is promiscuis doesnt mean he has no respect for women.
On the contrary, I have a ton of respect for women. I love women. In fact, I think that if I have a problem, its that I love em too much. But I have many female friends that I wouldnt hit on because I wouldnt want to lead them on. The ones that I do hit on, and later get with, typically know from the start that Im No-strings-attached guy. If I sense that they dont understand this, I let them know.
9 times out of 10, they know what the deal is. The one/few that didnt know, was likely to be naive and hoping to squeeze blood from a turnip. They know what they are doing and what they want, and know what the game is.
But again, we could go on forever arguing about this respect issue. But in the end, your claims of disrespect fall short because you have nothing to base it on. Im sure many promiscuis women, or even ones that are not, would argue contrary to your position.