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At 14 in 1969 I was hopelessely romantic, unlike the young lads today.
I fell in love head over heels with an acquaintance of my mother, a girl of 19, daughter of a wealthy publisher.
It never went further as frenchkissing, but by Jove I was hypnotized by that girl, sometimes I took a ride with her on her Moped, the wind pulled her rich, glistening perfumed mane into my face, it was pure bliss.
When she talked I drank her words as if it had been Champagne, I would have done anything for her.
Unfortunately I was too young for her, she probably had a boyfriend, and our ambiguous relationship lasted only for a few months, after she lost interest in me.
I sit here sometimes and wonder how funny it is that basically 3 comments ended 12 years of absolute love for someone. I guess I finally grew up right then too and realized I was in love with someone who didn't exist and never would.
Well I won't bore ya to death with my love story...I will just say it's been 2 years, 3 months, 5 days, 32 minutes and 1 second since I ended my love affair. I am still not over him and probally never will be. I can say however I do not regret one moment I spent with him. He taught me sooo much about life, tolerance and love...things didn't end badly, they just ended. I am a better person for knowing him. I don't believe in soul mates, but if I did, he is mine without a doubt. *goes to sob in the corner now* LOL
I have to admit that I'm still friends with one of my first true loves - and it's been a long, long time ago. We've even hung out a few times in the past few months, though we live 200 miles apart. (He had business to tend to here in my town) First couple of visits were quite sweet (platonic, honest, but sweet). The most recent visit brought me back to reality.
He'll never change; not the good, not the bad. We're still great friends.
I guess I must heal quickly. But I am long over all my past loves. I think that it's because I was in each relationship for at least five years. So any lingering infatuation feelings were all played out and gone.
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It seems to me that those who suffer the most heartache are from either unrequited crushes or broken up with their s/o before the three year mark when the crush feelings were still dominant. Also being the one dumped always hurts ones pride, even when you know that the relationship was doomed anyway.
I tried to weed out crushes (even serious) with this question, and just focus on first true love. It surprises me that someone can be with someone for 3 years and it still be a crush. I understand what you're saying about a general 5 year mark, but I know of a lot of people who broke up with or lost their first love and still feel they haven't completely gotten over them deep down inside, years and years later, regardless of who broke up with who. Of these relationships, I was curious to know who truly has let go.
You know you never really get over your first love, it's been 40 some years and I still have a soft spot in my heart for her. Now don't get me wrong, my wife and I have been married for over 30 some years now and we love each other now as much as we did 30 some years ago, but there's just something about that first love that you never forget and it doesn't hurt to not forget about it because it's a precious memory and that's where it should remain, a precious memory.
You know you never really get over your first love, it's been 40 some years and I still have a soft spot in my heart for her. Now don't get me wrong, my wife and I have been married for over 30 some years now and we love each other now as much as we did 30 some years ago, but there's just something about that first love that you never forget and it doesn't hurt to not forget about it because it's a precious memory and that's where it should remain, a precious memory.
100% correct - couldn't have said it better.
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At 14 in 1969 I was hopelessely romantic, unlike the young lads today.
