Men in an abusive relationship? (wives, women, children, physically)

[djf863000]

I was watching a documentary some years ago. There are a lot of men being abuse by their wives and probably a lot more then people think. But why so little men out and talk about it or if they do are not taken seriously?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by djf863000

I was watching a documentary some years ago. There are a lot of men being abuse by their wives and probably a lot more then people think. But why so little men out and talk about it or if they do are not taken seriously?

Well, I've witnessed situations when I really wouldn't wanna be in some poor guy's shoes... Definitely, there are many men who are verbally abused all the time. I'd imagine they're also conditioned this way by possibly growing up in this type of household. I guess they feel all the wives are like theirs and put up with it just expressing mild aggravation... As far as physical abuse, I wouldn't think it happens that often, but I may be wrong.

I'd imagine men consider either one too unmanly to even admit it. As you can see, you're not getting any responses.

[TKramar]

Originally Posted by djf863000

I was watching a documentary some years ago. There are a lot of men being abuse by their wives and probably a lot more then people think. But why so little men out and talk about it or if they do are not taken seriously?

What do you suggest we do? Even if we respond physically, we're looked upon as the "bad guy". My wife was schizophrenic...and I knew that her attacks on me weren't "her" but the disease acting.

It is not in my character to STRIKE a woman...the only way to respond physically is to restrain her...or I could try locking myself in another room when I saw a 'fit' coming on.

We're not together now, haven't been for some years--but what was I supposed to do? I lost a person that I never wanted to lose.

[jennaflorrie]

I heard one story about a guy who was verbally harassed for years and years. One day, he was painting the house, his wife nagged and nagged and moaned and swore. He got down from the ladder, without saying a word, he handed his wife the paintbrush. He got into his car and left and never came back. She was so shocked to say the least.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by jennaflorrie

I heard one story about a guy who was verbally harassed for years and years. One day, he was painting the house, his wife nagged and nagged and moaned and swore. He got down from the ladder, without saying a word, he handed his wife the paintbrush. He got into his car and left and never came back. She was so shocked to say the least.

Oh, that's a happy end. For a sec I thought he strangled her.

[djf863000]

I believe it happen more often then people think, even physical abused. But were do men turn? Many associations only say they can help abused women and children. Their ads talks nothing about abused men in the household.

[JerZ]

Well, why don't they just leave? (shrug) It's their own fault for staying. Just by staying, they're saying they condone the behavior, which therefore encourages more of it.

At least that's what's been said about 500 times on this forum this week alone about women who don't leave abusive relationships.

[Huckleberry3911948]

because its shameful to admit. whipped by a girl.
and unwilling to leave a sick relationship.
not everybody has got the guts to walk away from leave it to beaver.
a few do it.
its not so bad once you get used to sitting here alone typing on CD day and night.

[djf863000]

Why don't they leave?, I guess the same reasons women don't leave an abusing relationship. I would say many reasons, especially if there are kids in the relationship.

[TKramar]

Originally Posted by JerZ

Well, why don't they just leave? (shrug) It's their own fault for staying. Just by staying, they're saying they condone the behavior, which therefore encourages more of it.

At least that's what's been said about 500 times on this forum this week alone about women who don't leave abusive relationships.

Leave? Leave and go where? It's OUR house...especially if WE'RE the ones paying the bills. If a woman is unhappy--as opposed to mentally ill--why doesn't SHE leave?