Marriage 101 (dates, girl, love, husband)

[puffle]

Please share the secret's of your SUCCESSFUL marriage!

[crazyworld]

Gotta be friends, respect, trust and still have fun together. It has worked for me for 31 years. Plus I am married to the most patient man in AMerica..........hehehehehehe
I still get a note under my coffee each morning.

[sierraAZ]

That I can't do, but can recommend a book: Amazon.com: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last: Linda Bloom,Charlie Bloom: Books

[asitshouldbe]

Patience and tolerance: cool:

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by asitshouldbe

Patience and tolerance: cool:

Exactly - loooooooong patience and shooooooooort memory! Hey, puffie, only because I can't do it doesn't mean it's not true!

[tet tea]

A lot of give and take plus understanding.

Making fun of eachother and laughing a lot works moi and the hubster

[NEmommy]

Originally Posted by puffle

Please share the secret's of your SUCCESSFUL marriage!

He's never home!!! travels a lot, so we do miss each other, and it's just great once he's home. But seriously, patience, understanding, communication and a lot of love, that's about it.

[UW Badgers]

Communication, trust, respect, patience and understanding.

My husband and I were together for 7 years before we got married. We learned so much from one another through those 7 years. We didn't live together either and I think that was also a key factor. We knew we were compatible from day 1 and didn't need to live together to see if we would work well together. We enjoy all of the same things and we are the same way about things we don't like.

We treat each other with the utmost respect. We would never hurt each other. We have been happily married for 10 years(11 in July)and never had we had one moment where we didn't want to be together anymore and I can't remember the last time we had an arugement(which when we did they were so very minor). I probably sound sickening, but I'm just answering the question honestly...

[CTR36]

We are best friends. We dated for 2 years back in high school before we married. He makes me laugh at everything! He treats me like a princess (breakfast in bed anyday, caters to my every whim, tells me I am the most beautiful girl in the world, never, ever complains about my looks, always wants to go on dates with me) we have 3 kids and he always treats me with respect and love. I always laugh at his jokes!!! And I think he's the smartest most handiest man in the world! (been married 20 years)

[sierraAZ]

Based on my after-tsunami research and thinking, I'll have to respectfully disagree with this "communication" alone deal, even though it comes from people successful at marriage. I think what they forget to mention is that they're compatible with their spouses to begin with. No amount of communication skills can help incompatible people. Some author was giving an example of divorcing lawyers, marketing people, etc. They're all wonderful communicators. It's not that people don't understand what is being communicated to them. The problem is the disbelief they feel that somebody could possibly think what he/she says and the following disappointment.