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Old 05-08-2008, 12:54 PM
 
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Hey you! I keep thinking you're me. We even have very similar views....trippy.

I know how you feel!

I keep coming across your posts and thinking gee that was pretty articulate of me and then I realize it's one of yours!
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Just a thought here...

I used to change cars like most people change their socks. I always wanted a new toy, so I'd go for a fancy sports car with beautiful paint, shiny wheels, a sexy leather interior and all the bells and whistles. They were hot and sexy! They drew stares of envy from every guy on the road! My ego was eating it all up.

MANY were the times those cars would leave me stranded, or would require maintenance that was financially out of this world. One car required an $800 visit to a specially-trained factory mechanic just to change the belts! They weren't really comfortable for long trips, either - just for an occasional night on the town. They weren't really good on storage space or passenger room - heck, most had just two seats! How self-centered!

When it came time to move on, there'd be no shortage of willing men lining up to be the next. Looks alone guaranteed that.

Then I started going in the opposite direction and buying what I guess you could call "stealth" vehicles...these were ugly as sin, rusty, dented and dinged...usually pretty old...but they had a core that was fantastic! I'd look for cars that had strong, healthy engines...lots of storage and passenger space...ran well...low maintenance...

It turns out I had MORE fun and much longer, deeper "relationships" with these cars than the sexy sports cars. They were far more dependable; I could introduce them to my family and friends without asking them to bend in half like a pretzel; they were trusted to take me where I wanted to go without too many complaints. They were happy with the simple things in life - plain-Jane oil, plugs, even the gasoline was cheaper - no need for the high-end stuff.

Yet when I asked them to, they could provide enough power to overtake many of the sexy little gals on the street. They had hidden reserves - they didn't need to show off, because they KNEW what they had.

I just had to mature enough to realize how special that really was. Now, I still glance at the occasional little 2-seater, and might even fantasize for a moment or two - but I'd never get rid of my big, old, ugly dames.
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:06 PM
 
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I agree that looks matter less and less as you go into a relationship. I just feel there needs to be that initial spark, some of which comes from an initial physical attraction.

People tend to emphasize their best qualities. A really fit person will probably seek out other really fit people, not just because of common interests but also because fitness is something they really value.

Whenever I see an ugly guy with a really physically attractive girl I think that either he has a great personality (which often leads to wealth, though not necessarily in the case of say a teacher but certainly in sales) or he has physical features that are hidden by his clothes.

For those who say looks don't matter, how physically attractive do you consider yourself?

Girls always call each other cute, but guys usually call a woman pretty or beautiful when they find them attractive.

"Even ugly babies are cute" is a funny phrase I sometimes use when my female friends try to hook me up with one of their friends and describe them as "cute." Cute is more of how one carries themselves. A physically unattractive person with the right clothes and the right attitude (presentation) can be cute.

I consider twin women (sisters or just friends) wearing matching outfits cute regardless of whether or not I am attracted to their physical features.
I think you're underestimating or misinterpreting the initial "spark".

They've done studies on it. Lot of the time it has to do with pheremones (sp?) or even a shared experience, a moment, a word, a smile, kismet. You have that moment and then your eyes take in the physical attributes of the person before you and your brain interprets their attractiveness based on the "spark". How many times have you seen a "stunner" and seconds later noticed something not quite right to your eye? Reckon that'll be your brain seeking out what you think is attractive only to find that the "spark" or connection, even the pheremones aren't right.
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:20 PM
 
Location: TX
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Hey you! I keep thinking you're me. We even have very similar views....trippy.
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I know how you feel!

I keep coming across your posts and thinking gee that was pretty articulate of me and then I realize it's one of yours!
Have we exceeded the limit of moons that are allowed to post in a thread?
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:27 PM
 
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Have we exceeded the limit of moons that are allowed to post in a thread?
There's no such thing as too many moons.
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:28 PM
 
Location: Scranton
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Have we exceeded the limit of moons that are allowed to post in a thread?

No.

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Old 05-08-2008, 01:31 PM
 
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No.

OH! MY! GOD!! That looks awesome!!!!

Guess I've slipped up on the being attracted because of looks!
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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LOL! Perkins!

"It's 3am...you're stoned...no place else is open..."

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Old 05-08-2008, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Earth
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Have we exceeded the limit of moons that are allowed to post in a thread?
We're the gemini of moons, and FYI I have a feeling moonshadow is pretty hot.
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Old 05-08-2008, 01:44 PM
 
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They had hidden reserves - they didn't need to show off, because they KNEW what they had. I just had to mature enough to realize how special that really was.
ooooooooh I LOVE this! Right there also is the definition of true power (it is quiet and does not need to show off) as well as the difference between vanity and self-confidence, between arrogance and poise, between ego and character.

Tried to give you rep SifuPhil but gotta wait
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