How much do looks matter? (gorgeous, unattractive, surprise, people)

[uglyblackjohn]

Looks matter a great deal. If you see someone who's "hot"- you want to "do" her. If someone is pretty- you want to look at her. If one is beautiful- you want to own her. "Cute"- the word women hate to be called- you want to take care of her. One can be a combination of all of these things (or none) and will probably get the response listed. Lokks can get you partner but can't keep one. Personality, intellegence, morals etc. are what will keep you together.

[puffle]

Originally Posted by Humboldt1

Puffle,

My mother only asks that whomever I date be christian with a good heart. She does not care what they look like so long as I love her.

40K per year would have been a fair amount when you met your husband and by your response he clearly makes much more now. Success is an attractive feature. Also, do you work outside of the house or is he the sole breadwinner?

Asking about his package was rude. Sorry you were asked that.

I still think looks matter to a point but in the end looks are just a starting point. Personality and common interests will ultimately keep you together.

Hi Hum. Which response was it that clearly shows that he makes more money now? I don't recall mentioning? It doesn't matter what he makes now...it's who he was when I met him and he had bubkiss back then. We have traveled life's highways and byways which can go in all sorts of directions...some that you never could imagine would occur, but I love him and always remember why I married him and it wasn't for looks or money. I was fortunate for almost half of our marriage to be able to stay home and raise our son which we talked about when we dated. I made it clear that I did not want to have a child just to go back to work three months later. I did not want someone else there when he took his first step and said his first words and no one was but me. Stayed home until he was 8,worked for a year and stayed home and worked free lance as a make-up artist since we moved alot in the last seven years. Times are tough for most people right now and we are no different. I am just happy that we are healthy, have a wonderful 15 year old that I love to the ends of the earth, just like your mom does Hum. I agree with what is important to you in the person you settle down with. Your head seems to be on straight and can tell that your mom is a good woman. If you get along with your mom, but not tied at the hip, you will be a good man to your woman. Good luck all and thanks for not tearing me to shreads trying to make my point.

[Tzaphkiel]

Originally Posted by 60-minutes-II

I meant money. Does he make more money than the average person?

once again, asking a question likes this says sooooooo much about the person asking it, and how desperate people are to cling to their slime-coated beliefs rather than give people credit. Anyone! Credit to men for having finer qualities that someone asking a question like the above is probably not in possession of so is therefore unable to comprehend that anyone else has them either). Credit to women for appreciating the finer qualities of substance in a person, since you seem unable to accept or believe that anyone could choose to marry someone for something other than looks or money or codpiece.

HERE IS A CLUE: Not everyone is as superficial in their thinking and beliefs and life as you are! What part of "we don't all think the way you do" don't you understand?

I would say it's none of your damn business and it sounds like a troll (both literally and metaphorically) wallowing in the primordial muck of a severely stunted and underevolved belief system.

Maybe men with the attitudes apparent in posts like the one above would have more success with women and enjoy more quality in their relationships with women, if they did a little work on their attitudes towards women. There's a reallllllly good chance it's not the money or the looks or the job or the income or the car that is turning women away from you, it is the supremely UNATTRACTIVE attitudes, words, and beliefs you sport. In a word: UGLY.

[puffle]

Just my two cents, but I believe looks are more important to men in the women they chose and most women looks are secondary to father material,provider,friend and lover.

[Humboldt1]

DimSum,

To label someone ugly for emphasizing looks for determining what they seek out in a mate is not necessary.

People gravitate romantically toward people that turn them on whether that be through dialogue or the way they smile or the shape of their butt.

We are all attracted to different things. You claim to not emphasize looks but I highly doubt you are with someone you are not attracted to, whether it be physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Puffle is undoubtedly attracted to her mate. What she finds attractive in him is entirely up to her.

[puffle]

Hi Hum. I believe you have your priorities straight and really didn't need anyone else's advice

[songinthewind7]

Looks count if that's all you want is a roll in the hay and yes, you should be attracted to the one you want to be with but in the long run, looks may fade. The man gets a beer belly and the woman gets stretch marks, etc. If that bothers you, don't get involved in a relationship because one cannot keep there youthful appearances forever, although we can keep ourselves in shape and take care of ourselves.

Originally Posted by Humboldt1

I am starting this thread as I believe looks are very important in choosing who you are with on a romantic level. Many say looks don't matter so much which reminds me of one of my favorite quotes ever from Liar, Liar the movie.

"But Dad, my teacher says that everyone is beautiful on the inside.

Son, that is just what ugly people tell themselves to make themselves feel better."

Sad, but very telling of our society.

I don't choose my friends based upon their looks but personality and common interests. My friends could be hideous looking and I wouldn't care so long as I enjoy being around them.

I do use looks to determine who I date. There has to be some sort of physical connection for me to go out with someone, though obviously a great personality certainly can make up for shortfalls physically to some extent.

Still, I have to be physially attracted to someone to date them. Otherwise, they are just my friend, which is fine too.

To those that say looks don't matter when dating I am not buying it. Looks do matter, though they should not be the only factor we are looking at when choosing who to date.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by songinthewind7

If that bothers you, don't get involved in a relationship because one cannot keep there youthful appearances forever, although we can keep ourselves in shape and take care of ourselves.

There ya' go!

Like with cars - instead of buying one outright, just lease it. If it gets a few dents and dings, you can always trade it in on the newer model.

Besides, as soon as you buy one, it depreciates 20%-40%.

[beowulf7]

^ Not quite that much. A car loses 10% when driven off the lot.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by beowulf7

^ Not quite that much. A car loses 10% when driven off the lot.

Meh - I've heard everything from 10%-50%. Where do you get your number?