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i do LOVE sex and miss that but i also miss the touching...i want to be held and kissed and treasured and i don't think you can get that from any toys
There is nothing wrong with those emotions... perfectly normal. When you care about someone you want that physical contact, the hugging, the kissing, and sexual pleasure. As has been said, there are many ways to provide the pleasure part.... he just needs to recognize the need and take action to do something about it. I'm sure it's very frustrating for you on several levels... understandably so.
One more nail in the coffin of marriage. Between postings on forums, confessions from male/female friends, and the current divorce rate, I'm beginning to think there are very few people who actually know what 'being faithful' means. Is there really a downside to staying single for life? I'm slowly being convinced there is not.
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Does he know about the man from out-of-state? If so, he probably holds that in the back of his mind as well. It can't help matters any.
Sounds like you need either a marriage counselor, psychiatrist, or a medical doctor to find out what the problem(s) are, then get the remedy to fix it.
thank you so much for all the responses. i have tried a lot of them only to end up disappointed and frustrated after my husbands "needs" were met. that confuses me too because i didn't think if you were impotent there would be any kind of climax...i don't know....whatever. i think the one message about being touch deprived was really insightful. i do LOVE sex and miss that but i also miss the touching...i want to be held and kissed and treasured and i don't think you can get that from any toys
OH, but it can sure take the edge off when you lying the there with your back arched and moaning in pure delight oh ya, those toys can sure do the trick
OH, but it can sure take the edge off when you lying the there with your back arched and moaning in pure delight oh ya, those toys can sure do the trick
id say you need more physical contact with no expectation of sex. if you can get the rise out of him more festive if not then just play. there are several ways to have sex perhaps other avenues are an option. i expect he is traditional in that he doesnt like to talk about his short commings but it still must be addressed in some manor. otherwise you are dissatisfied. try the physical no judgement approach and jsut play for an extended length of time.
Unless I missed it, I get the feeling your husband is not a giver in terms of affection and physical demonstrations of affection other than intercourse - in other words, he has not been interested in showing you love with caressing of your body all over and genitals, kissing you all over, etc. Some men just do not an understanding of or have an affinity for that type of lovemaking - the caressing of your body all over your body, kissing you all over, stimulating your genitals with fingers....
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when you lying the there with your back arched and moaning in pure delight
oh ya, those toys can sure do the trick
