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I am almost finished with my MD training. In the past when I have dated men who made less $$ than what I will eventually make-it was always them that had the issue with my future salary. I never think about it much and don't see what the issue is (especially since at present, I am broke as a joke)-but maybe I am being naive.
What are your thoughts and if you could share personal experience or examples of how people have made it work that would be great.
Men, if you can tell me what the issue is and if/how it can be resolved that would be great too. I am a very down to earth person and hardly talk about work outside of work and I don't belittle people just because they haven't chosen, or had the opportunity, to do what I do--or something that "society" would consider to be "equivalent". Maybe I still am naive in thinking that as long as 2 people love one another it shouldn't matter.
Doesn't matter to me at all that my wife is an Accountant and definitely makes better money than I do. I have a High School Diploma and some College credits from about two years of attendance, but she has two AA Degrees and a Bachelors Degree in Accounting/Business.....I'm darn proud of her for those Degree's!! She does our bills/finances and I'm darn glad of that also.
However, before meeting her (while I was still single), I did meet a lady once that made a LOT more money than I, owned a nice condo, owned a very nice "luxury" car and looked pretty "stunningly" beautiful. Took her to dinner once, but knew (could tell) that "we" weren't going to work. We mutually ended it and she did tell me that I really couldn't afford her.
I know a couple that she makes a lot more money than he does. He works and makes a income but she puts in long hard hours and he has supper cooked when she gets in from work. It seems to work for them and I haven't heard either complaine.
here is my take on it its possible but difficult
women like to look up to their man but what if she is "up".
role reversal has been hard on women.
women go with their programming not what makes sense.
even when they try to do what makes sense
the "chemistry is not there" syndrome bites them in the leg
that is the scenario for the super smart woman
for the more prevalent successful assertive woman who experiences bad marriage
and failed marriage (there are plenty)
she often finds the guy withdrawing to avoid conflict
and just plain shutting down she interprets this sadly to
be a victory, and thinks he just needs some counseling and viagra.
Last edited by Huckleberry3911948; 05-12-2008 at 11:09 PM..
It really depends on the situation and the couple. For myself, I have to have a man that matches my intellect. I don't need him to have formal degrees or certifications, but I would like him to really enjoy and be good at his career. I would want him to enjoy doing many of the same non-work activities and hobbies that I like to do. If I were filthy rich, I would still want him to be a productive human being and have a job. He should have some ambition and with some interesting life goals. He should also be smart with the money he makes. I don't want a man that would be content to be a kept companion sunning by a pool and eating bon bons.
No kiddin'! Bright nights in the Relationships forum! Hope his/her style is different 'cause I'm getting moon-dizzy!
Ummm....I'm new to CD....what is a moon?
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Bright nights in the Relationships forum!
Hope his/her style is different 'cause I'm getting moon-dizzy!
