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I still love my first cousin - we grew up living close by - he moved away and I haven't seen him for years. But I still think about him most days. I know he is married. I am married too. But I feel as though he was my soul mate and I just miss him so much!
He did try to contact me in 2003, but I messed up. I believe he has feelings for me still, but I dare not make any moves on him and he probably feels the same way. One - we're both married with kids, Two - we're first cousins and people dissaprove. Three - we are both too scared to do anything (lol).
Doesn't matter what you feel. You're both married with kids. There's way too much potential fallout if that is ever acted upon. I hate to say it but if the two of you felt so strongly about each other, why didn't you guys just say screw it, we love each other then move to a place where no one would ever have to know you're related? These things happen much more than you think and it's not always rednecks out in the boonies.
ok so treat him like your brother. you are family and you should not undermine that familial bond because you yearn. on top of that he and you are married. be best friends, best cuzo's, best brother and sister or whatever. but dont take it to the next level. enjoy each other for who you are, FAMILY!!!
one of my cousins is my best friends, like a sibling, that dont mean i want to lay them.
think clearly please.
now if this was a long lost cousinz that you recently met and fell in love with and neither had kids and both of you were terminal, then OK why not.
Though it is generally taboo in the U.S., first cousins have been marrying in most cultures for centuries. It is common around the world.
That said, the OP should definitely NOT pursue their fantasies about a relationship. They are both married and have families to consider. His/her thoughts are dangerously irresponsible and immature.
I still love my first cousin - we grew up living close by - he moved away and I haven't seen him for years. But I still think about him most days. I know he is married. I am married too. But I feel as though he was my soul mate and I just miss him so much!
He did try to contact me in 2003, but I messed up. I believe he has feelings for me still, but I dare not make any moves on him and he probably feels the same way. One - we're both married with kids, Two - we're first cousins and people dissaprove. Three - we are both too scared to do anything (lol).
But I do miss him.....why can't I forget him.....
Eh, cousins... haven't had time to get to them... Yeah, there is a stigma to it. I had a cousin of a similar age (5 years older) who I didn't see often, but still often enough to feel he was like the brother I never had. It certainly was fun visiting him, hanging out with his friends and all. At times, though, I did have the feeling he wasn't looking at me as a sister... He isn't attractive to me, so I didn't have any such problems. In any event, this part of the post is totally innocent (JerZ, please take notes! )!
Now, at the above-mentioned cousin's wedding I met a "cousin" (1 1/2 - first cousin of my Dad) I'd never seen before. Anybody think he did or should've felt like a relative to me...?! I had an enormous crush on him! I was 17, he was 37. He worked night shift at a very exciting place. I spent one night with him while he was working. This had to be one of the most exciting nights of my life! Considering the detail he was a relative... considering I was 17 and a virgin... and considering his brains were working better than mine... nothing happened, absolutely nothing! That's not the end of the story, though... Eventually, many years later, it did happen. To be honest, wish it hadn't... It wasn't good at all and kinda tainted my previous magical night a bit. Hadn't seen him after that. Finally he ended up in the US for a while, too, but we never got to meet. Later on he passed away. However, I still remember that night, the first one. Don't really have regrets for the later development, but ideally should've left it at that.
Eh, cousins... haven't had time to get to them... Yeah, there is a stigma to it. I had a cousin of a similar age (5 years older) who I didn't see often, but still often enough to feel he was like the brother I never had. It certainly was fun visiting him, hanging out with his friends and all. At times, though, I did have the feeling he wasn't looking at me as a sister... He isn't attractive to me, so I didn't have any such problems. In any event, this part of the post is totally innocent (JerZ, please take notes! )!
oh no, i was reffering to the OP. she said she was married, as was her cousin.
i had never considered the whole Regret factor. most of the posters spoke about cousin humping being taboo and what not, but you brought in the perspective of possible regret.
thats a great perspective. the fact that she is cheating could possibly be the smallest of her regrets. just that.
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Yeah, there is a stigma to it. I had a cousin of a similar age (5 years older) who I didn't see often, but still often enough to feel he was like the brother I never had. It certainly was fun visiting him, hanging out with his friends and all. At times, though, I did have the feeling he wasn't looking at me as a sister...
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(1 1/2 - first cousin of my Dad) I'd never seen before. Anybody think he did or should've felt like a relative to me...?!
