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okay so one night i randomly met someone that i'm firends with best friend and instantly he fell for me, he thought i was beautiful and coudlnt' wait to talk to me. We started talking and i started liking him as well and he defiently was wayy to into it to early but i was like this could be bad but it's cute maybe i'll be wrong for once, everything was litearlly perfect for a month. We were so cute it was sickening. than he started getting werid so we took a few days break of no contact. and than eveyrthing developed again all on his doing b/c in my mind we were over for good.and we got closer but with a healthy way of talking not so all about eachother, and i met liek everyone in his life. and than a few weeks into it again all of a sudden he got weird again.he says he's unsure about how he feels about me, and his problem is he doen'st knwo what he wants. and i know first thought is to say he wants to be able to hook up with other people but i know it's not that, and plus we never said it was exclusive. But he only says he doesn't know how he feels only when he's in his werid moods which is a few days come every 4 weeks. when he gets in that mood everything black and white and theres no gray. right now we are taking off some time again but he still cares about me b/c i got a message about something he knew was speical. i mean it's not fair for me to wait around for him to decide but i want to know what other people take from the sitatuion. After the first time and i told his friend he even said don't worry ur'll be talking soon this is how he gets. please tell me what you think any input will do. thank ( p.s we're both 24)
But he only says he doesn't know how he feels only when he's in his werid moods which is a few days come every 4 weeks.
Do these periods that come every four weeks happen to coincide with the full moon?
Have you noticed his body becoming more hairy during these periods?
Does his voice change?
I am thinking that this guy is just keeping his options open; hanging out with you while at the same time possibly looking for something better.
Then again, you had the instinct that it was over, but yet he talked you back into it.
What ever your feelings are for this guy or his for you, it sounds like this is the type of roller coaster relationship that you can expect from him. Unless he has at least one overwhelmingly redeeming quality, I would go with your initial instinct and end it.
Do these periods that come every four weeks happen to coincide with the full moon?
Have you noticed his body becoming more hairy during these periods?
Does his voice change?
She said that he is twenty-four. He should have went through puberty a decade ago.
Ok, not to freak you out or anything but regardless of how you feel and how you think he feels, if he has an established pattern of going off regularly every four weeks then there's something else going on and I'd put money on a girlfriend or wife. He might like you a whole lot but regular patterns of strange behaviour are certainly something you need to get to the bottom of.
Regardless of what it is, you don't like it and I don't blame you so I'd be asking straight questions and wanting straight answers and if I didn't get them I'd be packing up my bat and ball and going home. And don't leave it like I did either because it doesn't feel any better 12 months or more down the track when you realize that he's been lying to you for a long time and you've let him.
So ask the questions and if you don't get good answers you need to move on. Sorry, but that's the best advice I can give you. I really wish you well with it. It sounds really awful.
My brother dated a girl who did something similar. He'd talk about how great things were between them, how compatible they were, yadda yadda yadda. She dumped him once because she was afraid of the commitment and she "didn't know what she wanted"... then they wound up getting back together again... he SWORE she wasn't going to do that again to him, and he told me so... wouldn't ya know it, about two months later, she did it again. History will repeat itself. I agree with the people who say "run away and don't look back". The right guy will want to claim you for his own, unabashedly.
okay so one night i randomly met someone that i'm firends with best friend and instantly he fell for me, he thought i was beautiful and coudlnt' wait to talk to me. We started talking and i started liking him as well and he defiently was wayy to into it to early but i was like this could be bad but it's cute maybe i'll be wrong for once, everything was litearlly perfect for a month. We were so cute it was sickening. than he started getting werid so we took a few days break of no contact. and than eveyrthing developed again all on his doing b/c in my mind we were over for good.and we got closer but with a healthy way of talking not so all about eachother, and i met liek everyone in his life. and than a few weeks into it again all of a sudden he got weird again.he says he's unsure about how he feels about me, and his problem is he doen'st knwo what he wants. and i know first thought is to say he wants to be able to hook up with other people but i know it's not that, and plus we never said it was exclusive. But he only says he doesn't know how he feels only when he's in his werid moods which is a few days come every 4 weeks. when he gets in that mood everything black and white and theres no gray. right now we are taking off some time again but he still cares about me b/c i got a message about something he knew was speical. i mean it's not fair for me to wait around for him to decide but i want to know what other people take from the sitatuion. After the first time and i told his friend he even said don't worry ur'll be talking soon this is how he gets. please tell me what you think any input will do. thank ( p.s we're both 24)
Some serious maturity issues here.
Run.
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