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[andreaspercheron]

Originally Posted by wanttomoveeast

So who's husband acts like this?

Mine is acting like a 35 year old in a 5 year old's body. For no freaking reason. Most of the time, 90% of the time, he's kind, caring and loving. Today he woke up in a bad mood and has been acting that way all day. I feel like I'm dealing with a toddler. Any minute now he's going to throw himself down on the floor and kick and cry.

Well, in a minute, just give him a good push and help him down on the floor LOL I wouldn't put too much thought into it, how many times do you wake up in a foul mood? It happens to the best of us, just let him do his thing and keep clear of him. I wouldn't even attempt a reasoning with him, chances are it'll make matters worse. Tomorrow he'll probably be back to his old self LOL

[wanttomoveeast]

: ) he's back to his old self and all is well in the universe : )

[NotARedneck]

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Originally Posted by cpg35223
Okay. Let me put it this way.

The first time he did it, it was his fault.

The second time he did it, it was your fault.

Silence implies consent. If the guy acts like a baby and you tolerate it, he's going to pull that stunt again. So I think you need to serve him a steaming hot cup of **** and leave the house until he can behave like a civilized person again. I bet he doesn't treat you that way any more after that.

Originally Posted by artsyguy

I never knew silence meant consent. That is new to me but is interesting. I always thought of silence as the "cold shoulder" or "silent treatment" as a form of punishment.

My problem is what happens if you tell the person it bothers you and you don't like it. Then they use that against you more often.

Neither of you are right or wrong. Its all about who has the power in the relationship. When women marry a guy who is continuously moody, despite knowing this, they are setting themselves up for problems. The reverse is also true but biology can be more of a factor.

My take is that she was attracted to him for less than sensible reasons (what I call superficial reasons) so he has the power in the relationship. If she had the power, she'd use cpg's approach and this thread would never have started.

Telling him will, as artsyguy states, just give him ammunition. She may need some psychological trick to control this behavior.

I'll bet many, if not most marriages fail on similar issues. After the divorce, the guy will ask why, but usually refused to go for any counselling, since he's quite happy the way things are.

[wanttomoveeast]

Notaredneck: Are you talking to me when you say that I was attracted to my husband for less than sensible reasons? If so, you are so offbase. In fact, you have absolutely no idea who I am, how we met, nothing. If you aren't talking to me, well, then never mind. lol

I see cpg's approach, but I'd think that the more successful marriages had partners like us who don't jump down our spouse's throat immediately but instead take a moment to reflect.

As far as moody goes, well, I'd think most people have had bouts of that. Especially if your boss just finished yelling at you.

Your last statement made me chuckle, as I think it's the reverse. If women need to manipulate and use "psychological tricks" to get along with their spouse, that doesn't sound necessarily like a "successful" marriage to me.

Are you married? Ever been?

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by wanttomoveeast

So who's husband acts like this?

Mine is acting like a 35 year old in a 5 year old's body. For no freaking reason. Most of the time, 90% of the time, he's kind, caring and loving. Today he woke up in a bad mood and has been acting that way all day. I feel like I'm dealing with a toddler. Any minute now he's going to throw himself down on the floor and kick and cry.

I'd take the 90% and run with it. None of us are perfect and tend to have days where we get up on the wrong side. Handling it with humor is always the best way. It may not stop it but it will sure make you feel better. Give the guy his 10%, that way you can collect on yours without being a hypocrite.

[Degenerate]

Everybody can get like that.

When it happens to me, I usually try to use humor to get them out of their "mood". If that doesn't work (and often when it does work), then I try sex. If that doesn't work ... well, that's always worked, so I don't know what I'd do if it didn't work

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by Degenerate

Everybody can get like that.

When it happens to me, I usually try to use humor to get them out of their "mood". If that doesn't work (and often when it does work), then I try sex. If that doesn't work ... well, that's always worked, so I don't know what I'd do if it didn't work

Well, if the sex didn't work you could always give me a big wad of cash and tell me to go out shopping. That would work for me.

[Degenerate]

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

Well, if the sex didn't work you could always give me a big wad of cash and tell me to go out shopping. That would work for me.

Twinkle Toes, you're a riot!

The shopping thing ... that's a good idea, isn't it? I can't believe I didn't think of that

[CaydenJ]

Originally Posted by wanttomoveeast

So who's husband acts like this?

Mine is acting like a 35 year old in a 5 year old's body. For no freaking reason. Most of the time, 90% of the time, he's kind, caring and loving. Today he woke up in a bad mood and has been acting that way all day. I feel like I'm dealing with a toddler. Any minute now he's going to throw himself down on the floor and kick and cry.

Did ya mean a 5 year old in a 35 year olds body? Some times giving him a good spanking will suffice. And a wack upside the head. And a "GROW THE *BLEEP* UP!" and he'll give you a but you'll walk away like .
Anyways...