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I think we might be moving in that direction. My one friend used my phone, a call came in last night, he answered and said, no this is C, t's boyfriend.....now just over the weekend he freaked out when I inadvertantly used that term when I introduced him to one of my friends...go figure how things change in days?
He had asked me if I was interested in getting married again...I wasn't sure if he was alluding to our situation or me in general...
You're right, no time like the present, maybe we should hop a plane to vegas and do it style by a preacher dressed like elvis?
I think we might be moving in that direction. My one friend used my phone, a call came in last night, he answered and said, no this is C, t's boyfriend.....now just over the weekend he freaked out when I inadvertantly used that term when I introduced him to one of my friends...go figure how things change in days?
He had asked me if I was interested in getting married again...I wasn't sure if he was alluding to our situation or me in general...
You're right, no time like the present, maybe we should hop a plane to vegas and do it style by a preacher dressed like elvis?
Ya know, if you're in love with this guy and you're happy, heaven knows I'm happy for you. But are you CERTAIN that this is going to work out in the long term? This dude is 23 years your junior. When you're 80 years old, he's going to be 57. Plenty of men are still very active at 57, and my best guess is that there ain't many 80-year-olds (male or female) who can keep up with such men.
It's so easy to be short-sighted in your early 20s. My brother is 24 and he's the poster child for short-sighted. I can look back to five years ago and see how I was still shockingly short-sighted at 23 even though I tried not to be.
He will say what he wants to say right now but it would take him being one in a zillion for him not to wake up on the morning of your 70th birthday when he's still a healthy and active 47-year-old man and think "oh my God, my wife is SEVENTY FREAKING YEARS OLD today!"
In order for him NOT to become a widower later on in life, assuming he reaches the average male life expectancy of 74 years old or whatever it is for Americans these days, you'll have to make it to 97. That's not impossible, but few people see that age. If he goes through a mid-life crisis in his late 30s or early 40s, like all too many men do, you're going to be left in the lurch in your 60s and then what happens? Enough wives have been hurt in their 30s and 40s when Hubby-poo has his midlife crisis and runs off with a 21-year-old he met in a bar... if 30-something and 40-something wives are not young enough for such a dude, how would a 60-something wife be young enough?
I'm not trying to discourage you... I'm hoping to help you avoid getting hurt. In my family there are no relationships with gigantic age differences where the woman is the older one... but there's one in particular that I'm thinking about right now where the man was older by 15 years. They got together quite late in life... he was in his early 70s and she was in her late 50s... he still had a decent amount of energy at that age but then I heard that when he hit 80, it was like all of a sudden his flame was extinguished and he became just like a normal "old man". His 65-year-old wife still wanted to do things, but she couldn't get her ancient husband to run around with her like she used to. Even that 15-year gap became a big issue later on. (I don't know how they're doing now.)
How long do you really think this young man is going to be able to deal with the fact that you're 23 years older than he is? I mean, that's kind of like my mother-in-law compared to me... she just turned 53 and I'm going to be 29 in January... we're in two totally different phases of life! She's ANCIENT compared to me, in age, mentality, stage of life, yadda yadda yadda... as I'll be ancient in my 50s compared to any other 20-somethings I encounter.
If you have the money to do so, I might encourage you to get a good picture of yourself age-progressed by a professional forensic artist. Then, show your boyfriend what you're going to look like at 75 or whatever... and see what he says. (It'd be even more interesting if you get HIS picture age-progressed to something like 52, so you can put the two of you side-by-side and see what you'll look like later on.) By the time a woman is 46, she should only be willing to get involved with men who are fully prepared to accept what she will look like at all stages in her life. If your boyfriend doesn't think that he could believe in your later physical beauty enough that he could stand up in front of lots of people when you're a wrinkly 70-something-year-old and tell them that he thinks you're more beautiful now than you were when he first married you (like I once witnessed in church... of course, the husband was in his 70s too)... then you have to let him go. He could be just a BOY, for crying out loud. He's younger than my brother... and my brother is definitely a boy.
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