Would you date someone with 5 children?!!! (personality, looking, personal, issues)

[miu]

I don't understand how if you make decent money and were paying your parents $500 a month to live with them, why you don't take over this $700 a month apartment for the duration of the lease and move out of your parent's place. How can an extra $200 a month break your budget?

Or take in a roommate to minimize your monthly expenses.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Shamerika

Hello everyone.

I'm in a situation where I have been dating a great man who has 5 children (4 different women) AND who is currently going through a divorce. We have been dating for 3 months now and I have met 2 (out of 5) children. They are well-behaved kids and he's definitely showing outstanding parental skills. I, on the other hand, have never been married and have no children nor any parental skills what-so-ever.

I want children so bad and despite that he has 5, he would like more with me, which I absolutely go for...but not sure what his other baby mama's would think or if it's in MY best interest to go for. I'm 22 years old and he's 28. I can see myself with him..no doubt about it.

Just wanted to know other opinions of people who have been in my shoes...not with one or two children but at least more than 3. I want to bring up child support talks or how much interactiong he has with his ex's and what possibly guarantees me and him to be together.

Any advice will be helpful.

Run, Run, Run, for one, you're way to young to be getting with anyone, two, this is just way to much responsibility that most 30 yr olds wouldn't want to deal with.

There are plenty of men in the world, to hook up with a guy how has "four baby mamma's" is just insane.

Just my humble opinion of course.

[asitshouldbe]

Does he have any money left after all that child support?

[vava]

I wouldn't worry about the house - I'd worry about renting without paying a HUGE deposit. Check what the apartment's policy is for breaking the lease, you may not have to pay for the remaining 9 months or you can find someone else to take over the lease on craigslist or something...

At least be glad that you'll have no more financial ties with him in 9 months. His baby mamas can't say the same.

[JeepGirl118]

Me? No. I wouldn't. A couple months ago I met a guy that has two young kids, 3 years apart from each other, with two different women he was not married to. I ran. Big turn-off.

[Jlyn5669]

Dated a guy who had 7 kids...but I only knew about 4. It seemed the longer we were together, the more kids kept popping up.

You have to look at the big picture. Who is the common denominator? He is...surely all 4 of those women can't be that bad? It's got to be the man who has the issues!!! lol.

[ocnymonty]

Originally Posted by fjtee

Run, run, run, run, run away. What everyone has been writing is absolutely correct. I don't care how nice and responsible he seems, to have 5 children by 4 women at the age of 28 is just insane.

Not to mention incredibly irresponsible!!!

[kygman]

Originally Posted by Shamerika

I think the best thing will definitely be to be friends ONLY.

And keep your knees firmly together when you two are together! lol

[driftwoodpoint]

Not a good track record..OMG. I would look elsewhere.
The number one quality you look for is Character. He doesn't look like he has that at all. How in the world could he support well all those kids and then another wife and children. Many women think they are going to change men like this, "oh I'll be the one who puts him on the straight and narrow" you are wrong. I can't believe at 28 he has done this much damage.
Please move on for you and your future....

[Welcome Home]

If he had these children with one woman maybe even two woman, ok forget that. Run as fast as you can and don't look back. I have nothing against men with children, but not when you are so young and just starting out. Now if you had your own children and were older, maybe going through a divorce. Then I can see dating a man with a few kids from a previous marriage. ( Not multiple marriages ) There is a reason why his relationships aren't working.