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Old 05-23-2008, 07:14 PM
 
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Is it the way she looks? The way she acts? The little things like her laugh or smile?

What draws you in?
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Old 05-23-2008, 09:02 PM
 
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Probably her rear, or the front...if I was answering for a guy. BHA HA HA!!!
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Old 05-23-2008, 10:45 PM
 
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Well, if we are talking about a complete stranger in a bar/club or something like that, then obvioulsy looks play a very important part in whether or not I will be interested in approaching her and wanting to get to know her more. However if we are talking about someone I already kind of know like a co-worker or friend of a friend, then it's more about things like mutual interests, sense of humour, personality, any little quirks she has that I find cute, etc. Also, if a girl is always making eye contact with me, smiling, and making excuses to come and talk to me, then I will be much more likely to want to remember her and want to get to know her more... as opposed to the girls that are all shy, never make eye contact, never say hello, etc.
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Old 05-23-2008, 11:16 PM
 
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if she has multiple personalities.
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Old 05-23-2008, 11:22 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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if she has multiple personalities.
He-he, artsy, perhaps I can take you out of gay-ism after all...
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Old 05-23-2008, 11:37 PM
 
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First you gotta take me out of my hermit phase.

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He-he, artsy, perhaps I can take you out of gay-ism after all...
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Old 05-23-2008, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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First you gotta take me out of my hermit phase.
Let's go to the hermit forum then!
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Old 05-24-2008, 04:44 AM
 
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Is it the way she looks? The way she acts? The little things like her laugh or smile?

What draws you in?
Did you pull these lyrics right out of the seventies?

I would say looks first. Then it's like an escalator, with the importance of personality slowly going up, and the importance of looks slowly going down. If her personality stops halfways up, then looks become the only reason to continue seeing her, and that will not last forever. If her looks are terrible to begin with, it's hard to be 'drawn in' to get to know her, especially if she doesn't take care of the package she is working with. Always gussy up the package, salespeople know that presentation and packaging is everything!
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Old 05-24-2008, 05:00 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Is it the way she looks? The way she acts? The little things like her laugh or smile?

What draws you in?
What she has to say, how she carries herself, how she dresses...if she respects herself, I'll be more likely to be interested. Of course, if she's interested in me, so much the better! Nothing quite makes me want to spend time with someone as the fact that SHE enjoys MY company...
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Old 05-24-2008, 06:37 AM
 
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Did you pull these lyrics right out of the seventies?

I would say looks first. Then it's like an escalator, with the importance of personality slowly going up, and the importance of looks slowly going down. If her personality stops halfways up, then looks become the only reason to continue seeing her, and that will not last forever. If her looks are terrible to begin with, it's hard to be 'drawn in' to get to know her, especially if she doesn't take care of the package she is working with. Always gussy up the package, salespeople know that presentation and packaging is everything!
Chi, "gussying up the package" only goes so far. If a woman can look great to a man without having to be especially gussied up, then she's even better off. I've always found it hilarious how women will go so far to make themselves "look good" (sheez, my wife and I went to DQ a couple of days ago and the girl behinid the counter couldn't have been too old... she was wearing braces... but she had so much makeup on that she looked like a bug-eyed alien)...... you see, men, there is no woman who is immune from things such as the almighty BEDHEAD. You have to find a woman who looks beautiful naturally, because you don't want to be turning into one of those jerk dudes who insists that his lady put on makeup (because deep down he doesn't like how she looks without it).

If you're like me and you did a lot of your woman-seeking online, then it is possible that looks wouldn't play as much of a role. After all, not everyone has a picture posted. So, if that's the game you're playing, it's all about the sales presentation! I was drawn to detailed descriptions which showed intelligence, mastery of the English language, and compatibility with what I sought in a mate. Your "sales presentation", whether it's about your personality or your physical appearance, should always be about "THIS is who/what I am, and I love it!". If you don't love it, and you're 18 or older, you won't attract a good guy. End of story.
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