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Old 05-31-2008, 04:04 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I'm in touch with someone. We seem to share similar interests, we're both indoors kind of people, both a bit old-fashioned (remarked what a gentleman I was)...however, to date we've only spoken on the phone and email....

because she lives 100 miles away from me...

that just may turn out to be a "deal breaker" as far as it going anywhere past friendship. A 200 mile round trip (especially considering today's gas prices) pretty much limits me to WEEKENDS.
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Old 03-25-2010, 10:58 PM
 
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Ladies: if your boyfriend/ husband is monogamous with you - both physically and emotionally - and completely STD-free, then what does it concern you if he had a previous homosexual experience before he ever met you?
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Old 03-25-2010, 10:58 PM
 
Location: southern california
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the 7 deadly sins.
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Old 03-25-2010, 11:01 PM
 
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Ladies: if your boyfriend/ husband is monogamous with you - both physically and emotionally - and completely STD-free, then what does it concern you if he had a previous homosexual experience before he ever met you?
It might not matter to some but would to me.
Why? We wouldn't be on the same page. Being heterosexual is a must in the relationship. If he has an homosexual past then that's something I can't help him in and won't relate to that.
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Old 03-26-2010, 05:12 AM
 
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Ladies: if your boyfriend/ husband is monogamous with you - both physically and emotionally - and completely STD-free, then what does it concern you if he had a previous homosexual experience before he ever met you?
do you mean,
he experimented to see what that was all about
he is bisexual, and you are THE ONE
he is homosexual, but has been "cured"
or something I haven't mentioned?????
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Old 03-26-2010, 05:21 AM
 
Location: Oxford, England
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Bigoted ( Racist,Homophobic,Sexist, Xenophobic)
Jingoistic/Macho
Violent/Abusive/Cruel ( to humans/animals)
Intellectually non curious
No sense of Humour
Takes drugs , smokes, drinks to excess
Into Porn
Dirty/Smelly
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Old 08-14-2012, 11:18 AM
 
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Most people here are posting so-called "deal breakers" that obviously NOBODY wants in a mate, i.e. unfaithful, drug addicted, married, mean, unfaithful, dishonest, etc. etc. The OP was asking for weird, quirky deal breakers, such as, "doesn't like fried oysters," or some such characteristic.

I'm way past dating ... in fact I always hated the idea of "going on a date," which so phony and artificial, but that's another topic.

My deal breakers would be:

1. Politically conservative. These people tend to be quite dumb and narrow minded. I know, because most of the people in my family are politically conservative. I love my family, but I could never lie in bed night after night next to someone who actually voted for George W. Bush, or who thought Sarah Palin would make an appropriate vice president.

3. Way too into sports. My second husband was a rabid basketball fanatic, and I watched many games with him, trying to get into the mind set of someone who enjoyed watching tall men run up and down a court for five hours, trying to get a ball into a hoop. I gave it a chance. I still don't get it. However, if you want to watch a game once in a while or talk sports with your buddies, that's fine.

3. Unwilling or fearful to try new things (new food, new places, new experiences).

4. Super materialistic and shallow, too focused on appearances. Anyone who needs to be surrounded by expensive brand names and/or needs to get spray-tanned and work out like a maniac and wear all the latest fashion fads usually has something missing upstairs.

5. Has no understanding or appreciation for beauty or the arts. This includes architecture, nature, movies, music, etc. Some people have no sophistication regarding these areas. I don't mean they have to be formally educated, but should have a natural affinity for quality.

6. Is a member of a dogmatic religious group and/or attends services regularly. I appreciate religion and its importance to some people, but it has no place in my life and seems immature, childish and archaic to me. I was raised by dogmatically religious people and they are often not even as nice as the average non-church-goer.

7. Is way too close to immediate family. Everyone needs to cut the apron strings and be an adult at some point, and that includes being too close to one's siblings. Don't make me compete for your affection.
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Old 08-14-2012, 12:58 PM
 
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1. Lying. I have no tolerance for it.
2. A bad temper. I almost never raise my voice. MrsCPG was shocked the first of two times she's heard me do it (And, no, it was not directed towards her). To me, a bad temper is a character flaw.
3. Women who flunked the waiter test. A person who is nice to me and not nice to the waiter is not a nice person.
4. Chronic lateness. I'm not talking 5 minutes. I'm talking about a woman who is habitually late by a half-hour or more. It's just incredibly inconsiderate of others.
5. Drama. Everything in the person's life being some kind of movie of the week scenario with arguing or being pissed off for some petty reason. Not paying the power bill. And anything else that falls under the category of chronic mismanagement of life. To these people it's NEVER THEIR FAULT.
6. Non Reader. What in God's name am I going to discuss with you?
7. Three cats or more. I like cats. Always had a cat. But, without fail, a woman with more than two cats always turned out to be a head case.
8. Five or more relationship books on the bookshelf. Run away and fast.
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Old 08-14-2012, 01:20 PM
 
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Most people here are posting so-called "deal breakers" that obviously NOBODY wants in a mate, i.e. unfaithful, drug addicted, married, mean, unfaithful, dishonest, etc. etc. The OP was asking for weird, quirky deal breakers, such as, "doesn't like fried oysters," or some such characteristic.

I'm way past dating ... in fact I always hated the idea of "going on a date," which so phony and artificial, but that's another topic.

My deal breakers would be:

1. Politically conservative. These people tend to be quite dumb and narrow minded. I know, because most of the people in my family are politically conservative. I love my family, but I could never lie in bed night after night next to someone who actually voted for George W. Bush, or who thought Sarah Palin would make an appropriate vice president.

3. Way too into sports. My second husband was a rabid basketball fanatic, and I watched many games with him, trying to get into the mind set of someone who enjoyed watching tall men run up and down a court for five hours, trying to get a ball into a hoop. I gave it a chance. I still don't get it. However, if you want to watch a game once in a while or talk sports with your buddies, that's fine.

3. Unwilling or fearful to try new things (new food, new places, new experiences).

4. Super materialistic and shallow, too focused on appearances. Anyone who needs to be surrounded by expensive brand names and/or needs to get spray-tanned and work out like a maniac and wear all the latest fashion fads usually has something missing upstairs.

5. Has no understanding or appreciation for beauty or the arts. This includes architecture, nature, movies, music, etc. Some people have no sophistication regarding these areas. I don't mean they have to be formally educated, but should have a natural affinity for quality.

6. Is a member of a dogmatic religious group and/or attends services regularly. I appreciate religion and its importance to some people, but it has no place in my life and seems immature, childish and archaic to me. I was raised by dogmatically religious people and they are often not even as nice as the average non-church-goer.

7. Is way too close to immediate family. Everyone needs to cut the apron strings and be an adult at some point, and that includes being too close to one's siblings. Don't make me compete for your affection.
yet a woman watching desperate housewives, jersey shore, or teen mom to unwind is ok? Sports are an outlet.. its better a man is obsessed with a sports team then drugs or gambling.


I think a lot of these deal breakers are just common sense things. of course u want someone that doesnt have a criminal record or is violent or lazy. Some people though have so many rules and deal breakers they limit themselves from meeting quality people
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Old 08-14-2012, 01:37 PM
 
Location: Canada
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yet a woman watching desperate housewives, jersey shore, or teen mom to unwind is ok? Sports are an outlet.. its better a man is obsessed with a sports team then drugs or gambling.


I think a lot of these deal breakers are just common sense things. of course u want someone that doesnt have a criminal record or is violent or lazy. Some people though have so many rules and deal breakers they limit themselves from meeting quality people
I agree with the bolded part.

Not to nitpick, but having a few one hour shows to watch in a week is a lot different than sporting events that are several hours long and occur more frequently. Baseball in particular, can easily occur almost every day of the week.

There are many who are into "sports" as a general rule, not just one isolated sport. My father watched every sport that was on the TV. Although he didn't structure his life around it, he could easily spend every single evening and all day Sundays watching sports. And for some diehards, you can't speak or interact with them during the sports event they're watching, unless it's about what they're watching. For some sports fanatics, it is an addiction if they're isolating themselves from the rest of the family during that time.
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