Dating sites work for anybody? (wife, boyfriend, women, single)

[rekesk]

I'm giving match.com and okcupid a try recently.

I am usually the type who prefers to date people through socializing/networking, and not through the computer, simply because I don't know what I am going to get. However, a colleague recently told me that I've become too analytical about the whole dating game, and that I should give the numbers game approach a try. He said that online dating is pretty harmless and well I got convinced.

So can anybody on here testify about their own experiences? I just got done winking at a bunch of chicks on match.com and in the next couple of days I'll send messages out to them to see if I get any luck. If nothing turns up, I guess its rinse and repeat.

[girlintheglass]

Hi,
I tried it a few months ago. I live in a small town and the dating pool is very limited. A friend also told me I should try it... YUK. LOL I will not do it again. However, I know a few people who have met their one and only and I am told that it is possibly better for men because there are much fewer preditors. My experieince was not positive though, unfortunately. Good Luck.

[sierraAZ]

As good as any... probably a step up from those catering primarily to one-night stands. I did try match once some years back when looking for trouble. I had nothing in common with people and gave it up, but that's personal and beside the point. You really need opinions of men only, because there's always a flock of guys for the ladies, picture present or not... I know because I kept the profile pictureless for a while.

[chiaroscuro]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

As good as any... probably a step up from those catering primarily to one-night stands. I did try match once some years back when looking for trouble. I had nothing in common with people and gave it up, but that's personal and beside the point. You really need opinions of men only, because there's always a flock of guys for the ladies, picture present or not... I know because I kept the profile pictureless for a while.

Craigslist is the same way, there's a bazillion men hounding one woman, even if she looks like an obese female Hitler. They will do it, because a nasty vagina is better than no vagina. For men I think dating sites are a bit more difficult than women, simply because there are more desperate guys out there. And some of them are very good at appearing awesome, on the internet. I'd just stick with going to clubs, going to local outdoor events, concerts, etc. Anything that will put you in the way of a lot of women with common interests. And then after that just work on saying Hi and smiling. If that doesn't work, take steroids for six months and go to the beach. The women you attract won't actually possess a brain, but they'll have some really nice hair and fake ****.

[Aconitum]

lol well.. i had a horror story for dating online. won't catch me doing that again- at least not intentionally.

all i have to say is: beware of foreigners.

[TKramar]

It took 18 months to figure out that we WEREN'T as good a match as we originally thought.

[Rathagos]

In the same vein as dating sites, you might also want to consider forums or chat rooms *cough cough* like this one *cough cough*.

I met my current wife through a chat room over 5 years ago. Some chat/forum rooms even have alternate or related sites set up where you can post a picture of yourself (non-pornographic, of course).

Whichever route you go, and hopefully you've been warned about this plenty before... be careful what information you reveal, and especially if/when you decide to meet face-to-face. Let someone know where you're going to meet and who you're going to meet. Set up a time when you're supposed to call your friend to check in or when they will call you. Or even have a friend tag along unknown.

I don't want to scare you away... like I said, I met my wife online... just take some precautions.

[miu]

I've had friends that tried dating sites and based on their experiences, I would never use one. I met my boyfriend online, but neither of us were looking for romance. We were both members of a small special interests board and found that we had even more interests in common. We were just friends for six months and just enjoyed each other's company.

I think that the best way to meet someone to date is to try some new real life activities. Volunteer work, adult ed classes, team sports... just get out there and develop some new hobbies and make just friends. Don't just focus on finding a single guy to date. Don't focus on romance and the right guy will eventually come into your life. Don't waste your time on dating just anyone that's available. Take your time and be picky. Be yourself and not someone that you think will attract more men.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by TKramar

It took 18 months to figure out that we WEREN'T as good a match as we originally thought.

Depends on how you look at it. Some people would say they had a wonderful 18-month relationship.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Aconitum

all i have to say is: beware of foreigners.

That's right! We're eeeeevviiiillll!