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Old 05-28-2008, 08:29 AM
 
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I posted on this forum several months back because I felt my husband was paying too much attention to his BFF. I wanted support and suggestions as to how I could get this woman out of our lives. All you people could do was dump on me because my husband used to be gay. Well, guess what! His BFF kept dropping all kinds of hints that he needed to come to terms with his homosexuality and stop using me as a source of financial security. Guess what he did! HE DUMPED HER! HA! You people were all WRONG! It was HIS idea to end their friendship, and do you know why????? Because he loves ME! Life is GREAT!
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Old 05-28-2008, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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Did you know he was gay before you married him? I don't think you can just flip the gay switch and be straight.
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Old 05-28-2008, 10:38 AM
 
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I posted on this forum several months back because I felt my husband was paying too much attention to his BFF. I wanted support and suggestions as to how I could get this woman out of our lives. All you people could do was dump on me because my husband used to be gay. Well, guess what! His BFF kept dropping all kinds of hints that he needed to come to terms with his homosexuality and stop using me as a source of financial security. Guess what he did! HE DUMPED HER! HA! You people were all WRONG! It was HIS idea to end their friendship, and do you know why????? Because he loves ME! Life is GREAT!
I am confused...I guess I did not read your previous post from a few months back. Is your husband's BFF a man or woman? So she was telling your husband that he is still gay? What does it matter to her? But turns out, he is straight now for good and your happy husband?

Where is Maury Povich?
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Old 05-28-2008, 10:44 AM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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BFF-best friend forever, aparently not
Gay- attracted to same sex
Bisexual- attracted to both sex

Female married to Gay male..

Elton John was supposedly happily married once too. He lied about himself for many years even to the point of getting married. If your husband was/is "GAY" he's either deluding himself, you or both. If he was BI than that's fine. I just get the feeling down the road you're not going to like something you're going to find out, but hey, you never know..GOOD LUCK.
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Old 05-28-2008, 10:55 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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You could always test him, if hes having a had time getting off with you but when you hold up a picture of Bob Villa he blasts off like the space shuttle....well
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Old 05-28-2008, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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You could always test him, if hes having a had time getting off with you but when you hold up a picture of Bob Villa he blasts off like the space shuttle....well

Yikes!!
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Old 05-28-2008, 11:48 AM
 
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I agree that it is important to make the distinction between someone who is gay and someone who is bisexual. Gay people generally don't change into being straight, that's a delusion. However gay people can realize and come to terms with being bisexual.

Just as many straight people are "homo-phobic" and have issues about gay....
so, too, are many gay people "bi-phobic" and have issues around being bisexual.

Also someone can be straight and "try out" being with someone of the same gender to see what it is like for them, but it doesn't make them either gay or bisexual, just that they are experimenting. Often times it is through trying out what does and does not feel right for us, that we figure out who we are attracted to and want to be with.
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Old 05-28-2008, 01:03 PM
 
Location: When will Hell Freeze Phoenix, AZ
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Sorry, he probably dumped her because she was right...I have a good friend who is married and I, too, have told him over the years to accept his homosexuality. Either your husband is Bi-sexual or Gay and is or isn't cheating on you. But it seems like you are married to a man who likes other men. People don't turn it on & off. Look at all of the cars at gay clubs with baby seats in the back (yes, yes, of course gay couples can have babies). Sooner or later you will have to come to terms with that.
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Old 05-28-2008, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Bay Area
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Sorry, he probably dumped her because she was right...I have a good friend who is married and I, too, have told him over the years to accept his homosexuality. Either your husband is Bi-sexual or Gay and is or isn't cheating on you. But it seems like you are married to a man who likes other men. People don't turn it on & off. Look at all of the cars at gay clubs with baby seats in the back (yes, yes, of course gay couples can have babies). Sooner or later you will have to come to terms with that.
How would you know? Have you been trolling the parking lot at gay clubs looking for baby seats and diaper bags in the back???

To the OP: Pay no attention to these people and I am happy for you. They know nothing but 4 sentences about your life but seem to form (uninformed) assumptions and conclusions. Life your life and be happy.
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Old 05-28-2008, 03:41 PM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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To the OP: Pay no attention to these people and I am happy for you. They know nothing but 4 sentences about your life but seem to form (uninformed) assumptions and conclusions. Life your life and be happy.
That's true. However, I don't need more than 4 sentences to tell you that a man who has a history of homosexual behavior is qualitatively different from one who is actually born straight. A gay man has needs that a woman can't satisfy and making a commitment like marriage with a gay man is a risky enterprise on so many levels.
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