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06-12-2008, 06:23 PM
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Stranger than fiction
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the state of denial
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I absolutely agree, but if I'm not mistaken this happened while you and your husband were separated. While it's still hard to accept, to me at least this is not cheating.
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It would not have been cheating if the marriage had been over but, obviously, it wasn't over so it is cheating. It's only not cheating if it happened after the marriage ended. When did my marriage end? |
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06-12-2008, 06:26 PM
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1st Amendment, RIP!
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"guess I'm back..."
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Tucson
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Originally Posted by Ivorytickler
It would not have been cheating if the marriage had been over but, obviously, it wasn't over so it is cheating. It's only not cheating if it happened after the marriage ended. When did my marriage end?
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I don't know. What I DO know is that it WILL. |
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06-12-2008, 08:04 PM
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Stranger than fiction
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the state of denial
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I don't know. What I DO know is that it WILL.
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Actually, the answer to the quesiton is, the moment he chose her. So it is over by his choice. It's one thing to leave and move on to someone else. It's quite another to try and go back after that. And totally illogical I might add.
You don't throw someone away and then try to reclaim them. "OH, I wanted something new for a while but now I'm tired of that and want you back" just doesn't work.
Last edited by Ivorytickler; 06-12-2008 at 08:26 PM..
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06-12-2008, 08:23 PM
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Somewhere - it's all in the attitude!
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Cheating
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Originally Posted by sincere1782
Should you take back someone who has cheated on you?
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Been there.
I did look at all avenues. Yes, I did take him back. Actually, he never left physically but he left emotionally. Long story but it was the right thing to do - years later, it has paid dividends.
Foregiveness goes a long way.
When I figured out what the other woman's true motivation was, I was able to end it pretty soon after that. When she (other woman) found out what had been done, she went ballistic and attacked me physically.
That showed me she was only after something that she thought existed but really did not.
The forgiving part takes a while, believe me but times heals all wounds. |
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06-12-2008, 09:46 PM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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not unless the sex was amazing.... 
Quote:
Originally Posted by sincere1782
Should you take back someone who has cheated on you?
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08-04-2008, 03:41 PM
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Sometimes that's an easy decision.
For me it was an easy decision. My husband Pat cheated after he had already prooved himself to be a drunk, wrecking the car beyond repair, and he never came home from work for dinner anymore. So when he was caught cheating by private investigation, that was the last straw. I moved out. Sometimes you just know when enough is enough.
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08-04-2008, 03:44 PM
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Not a member
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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Originally Posted by sincere1782
Should you take back someone who has cheated on you?
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No, I would not take back a cheater. Once a cheater is always a cheater like a ho is a ho. |
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08-04-2008, 05:40 PM
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There's no place like home...
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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Quote:
Originally Posted by sincere1782
Should you take back someone who has cheated on you?
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If there is a potential for things to work out..you go for it and don't let anyone dissuade you from your decision. Only you know what you and your partner has behind closed doors..no one else. Check out this post I created a while ago..
http://www.city-data.com/forum/relat...s-cheater.html
Last edited by TrishP7; 08-04-2008 at 06:16 PM..
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08-04-2008, 05:52 PM
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There's no place like home...
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
Only you know that, dear... Just be prepared for it to happen again.
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No need. With all due respect, Sierra..If OP decides to take a person after he/she's been cheated on..they need to prepare for anything..bad can come out of this as well as good!! One step at a time, OP, one step at a time..Good luck. |
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08-04-2008, 06:01 PM
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There's no place like home...
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
You are certainly entitled to your opinion. I just don't think you should be spouting it out like it is fact, when it isn't.
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I guess folks will respond according to their experiences...whether it be good or bad! I hope OP realizes that. No relationships are black and white..many shades of gray. OP needs to know what will and will not work from them. |
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