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Old 06-05-2008, 09:37 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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That's not true. We had a friend who stepped out on her hubby in a pretty outrageous fashion, and lost both her kids. No drugs. No alcohol.
I didn't say mothers never lose their kids - sure that can happen. It is just not very common, especially in the south. The vast majority of times the mother gets the kids no matter what.
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Old 06-05-2008, 09:56 AM
Status: "Desperately searching for the grading fairy...." (set 3 days ago)
 
Location: Whoville....
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I didn't say mothers never lose their kids - sure that can happen. It is just not very common, especially in the south. The vast majority of times the mother gets the kids no matter what.
Here the default is joint custody. You have to prove the other parent unfit to take custody. I think it depends on where you are.
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Old 06-05-2008, 11:45 AM
 
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uh no. that would be psycho.

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Don't forget to pee in public and kill an animal or two on the way home. I think you need to do something to feel manly again.
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Old 06-05-2008, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Mile High City
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Jimbo-Leave the killing the animals out please.

To OP-I would have said "Don't let the door hit you on your a@@ on the way out". Then I would have changed all the locks in the house and contacted her parents to let them know what a ***** their daughter is and how she is breaking up a happy home.

Don't bother trying to fix this. She's obviously not happy and doesn't want to be with you. Print out those emails ASAP and give them to someone safe to hold for future reference. Good luck!
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Old 06-05-2008, 12:20 PM
 
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nsa, first I sympathize with your problem. Apparently, your wife is an adultress AND a liar. You have two options IMO:

1) Confront her with the intention of saving the marriage, or
2) Set her up to be BBQ'd during a divorce trial by hiring a PI and lawyer. All the money and the kid will be yours, but she will still get visitation and you might be paying more than half of the kid's bills.

#1 is obviously the more honorable choice of the two. But #2 is far more satisfying in the near-term. So you must check your own values and decide, then act decisively. DO NOT WAIT. For all you know, she could be planning #2 on you.

I am not an attorney, I just vacation with one!
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Old 06-05-2008, 12:40 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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I'm sorry but there's an old saying "Once a cheat, always a cheat."

She's been emailing him
She went to be with him
The baby doesn't even count

Cut your losses now!

you need you a can of this...






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Old 06-05-2008, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Derby, KS
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Jimbo-Leave the killing the animals out please.

To OP-I would have said "Don't let the door hit you on your a@@ on the way out". Then I would have changed all the locks in the house and contacted her parents to let them know what a ***** their daughter is and how she is breaking up a happy home.

Don't bother trying to fix this. She's obviously not happy and doesn't want to be with you. Print out those emails ASAP and give them to someone safe to hold for future reference. Good luck!
Yeah that would have been a good move I think. Call her parents and let them know that their daughter is on a plane to meet up with her old boyfriend for a romp. Watch how fast her mom gets her on her cell phone to b**ch her out.
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Old 06-05-2008, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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I hate to say it but you are sure the baby is yours?? You had better find out now rather then later.
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Old 06-05-2008, 02:03 PM
 
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You know, I'm beginning to smell a rat. Nobody can be this big of a doormat. I'm saying baloney.
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Old 06-05-2008, 02:33 PM
Status: "Desperately searching for the grading fairy...." (set 3 days ago)
 
Location: Whoville....
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I hate to say it but you are sure the baby is yours?? You had better find out now rather then later.
I don't know that I'd recommend that. If he was married to her at the time of birth and signed the birth certificate, legally this is his child. Even if he can prove he's not the bio father, the court will still hold him responsible (supposedly,they look at the best interest of the child and since he's been established as the father, he gets the bill).

This may be a case where ignorance is bliss.
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