Why did you get married? (dating, wife, marriage, men)

[sincere1782]

Ok, in today's world getting married is like changing clothes. All of my friends have recently got married and half of them were seperated or out of love within months. So i was just wondering if falling in love was still the number one reason or is it now because of the: money, fear of being alone, looks, children, your parents, sex, or just plain settling for someone that made you get married.

[JerZ]

For me, it was love. I had two marriage proposals before my first husband and I turned them both down, and I was a single parent at the time, so all the "extras" you mention would certainly have come in handy--if I had thought they were more important than loving your spouse, or if I didn't have the chutzpah to get them on my own.

[once-upon-chicago]

We married 'cause at that time there weren't any partner benefits and I was pregnant with our 1st child. We were perfectly happy living together w/out the paper - we believe marriage is an outdated mode of living. Unfortunately society still insists that people marry to recieve any benefits for the spouse and/or the children. We've had our ups and downs but after 13 years we're still together and most of the time we're still happy. My love for my husband is stronger than when I first met him and if something ever happened to us I won't get married again. Told him this is my 1st and only time at marriage.

[Rathagos]

Originally Posted by sincere1782

Ok, in today's world getting married is like changing clothes. All of my friends have recently got married and half of them were seperated or out of love within months. So i was just wondering if falling in love was still the number one reason or is it now because of the: money, fear of being alone, looks, children, your parents, sex, or just plain settling for someone that made you get married.

She wouldn't give it up until I did!!! (JUST KIDDING NWPA!!!)

My wife and I knew each other for about 2 years before we got married. She moved here to Texas from Pennsylvania so we can get to know each other better. She had a daughter from a previous marriage. After time, we knew we loved each other.. that was obvious. But what we needed to find out was did we have the same goals down the road. As I've said in posts past, I want to retire in the hills/mountains somewhere close to a lake. She shared that desire. That was the biggest thing. But there was a materialistic reason, too. I wanted to take care of her and her daughter (medically), and I have real good insurance being retired military. But, the only way to get them on my policy is to get married. This was a lesser reason beyond the love and sharing of a long term vision, but it did play a role.

My advice is to look at the "down the road" picture. Most people don't ever really think about where they want to be... to retire. And that is a goal that should be shared, or you have two people working for two different goals. That's not a good recipe for success after the sex and honeymoon phase wears off.

[Driller1]

Money. I was tired of being poor. Now, if that sounds wrong, my mama told me, "it is wrong to marry for money" but, "there is nothing wrong with dating rich men until you fall in love".

BTW, I took his money and made him much richer.

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by sincere1782

Ok, in today's world getting married is like changing clothes. All of my friends have recently got married and half of them were seperated or out of love within months. So i was just wondering if falling in love was still the number one reason or is it now because of the: money, fear of being alone, looks, children, your parents, sex, or just plain settling for someone that made you get married.

She moved in which wasn't my idea, after a few months my mom had a sit down with me.. You know pat, you oughta ask her to marry you, and like a stupid dum**ss i went .."ok"

[alicenevada]

My husband and I met when were 16, started dating, and got engaged when we were 18. We married at nineteen and both of us were virgins because we don't feel sex before marriage is right. We married because we loved each other and it was just the next step. We have been married 13 years now and have three children.

[phoenix_talons]

I got married for practical reasons: Green Card and better tax brackets.

[mommabear2]

We married for love. There isn't many things in life that I've ever been really sure of... but when it comes to my husband... I knew that he is and always will be the love of my life. Seven years and we still chase each other around the house (and unless one of us dies, we'll be chasing each other for a LONG time to come).

I suppose the idea of marriage is trite and trivial... but it never was for us.

[NWPAguy]

I got married because I was in love with she who became my wife and I wanted her to be in my life for the rest of my life... or hers... or I should say OURS because we've already made a pact to live long enough at least for me to reach 100 years old and then we'll both die of simultaneous heart attacks while we're...

We got married because we were/are in love with each other and we had/have a lot of things in common, but the biggest deal-sealer was that we believed we'd be stronger together than we would sum up to be, apart.

AND YES, Rath, we wanted to have sex....! (That's just the icing on the cake though... it really didn't sway our decision.)