THE "VIRGIN" thread! (boyfriend, girlfriends, women, sex)

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by leslie_downs

this goes to the guys...do you tend to have a bond or some type of connection to the girl you lost your virginity to orrr will always have feelings for her, and what kind of 'feelings'? i know many girls can, but am wondering how it is for the guys. as in a relationship were at one time you thought you loved the girl then you realized that you didnt when you found the love of your life...

Not a guy, but let me add what I know...the guy friends I have who were really in love with the girls they lost it to all have very fond feelings for those girls many years later.

Guys who were just doing it to be able to say they "did it" can't hardly remember the girls names.

[endersshadow]

No more of a connection than what I already had with her.

[60-minutes-II]

sex isnt a big deal anymore and losing your virginity at a young age is a mistake. Kids are not prepared to act like adults so they shouldn't be doing things like sex. but a culture where everyone thinks about getting some gets some. so no the first should not matter than the second or third.

[asitshouldbe]

No, there is no bond, it was the first, that does not mean you were in love.

[Bazzwell]

Lasting memories, certainly. Lasting bond? No, not a touch. We haven't crossed paths since 1980 and neither of us has ever made any attempt to change that. So it was what it was, an event of the moment.

[chiaroscuro]

Originally Posted by 60-minutes-II

sex isnt a big deal anymore and losing your virginity at a young age is a mistake. Kids are not prepared to act like adults so they shouldn't be doing things like sex. but a culture where everyone thinks about getting some gets some. so no the first should not matter than the second or third.

Good call.

I lost mine when I was 18, a bit late among my peers (and later, I realized, than most of the nation it seems). I do have slightly fond memories of her, it was rather a bad situation though because she was a friends girlfriend at the time. All-in-all I don't wish I had waited longer per se, I just wish I had waited for a different person. Make sense?

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

I heard (on Sex and the City) that if you go without sex for a year you are re-virginised.

SO I guess I'm a virgin again.

[leslie_downs]

Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren

I heard (on Sex and the City) that if you go without sex for a year you are re-virginised.

SO I guess I'm a virgin again.

hahah that's funny. you can be a reborn virgin. as in lost your virginity before you came the the lord then got born again and commited to not having sex again til you get married, which is what i've done...
4 years now!

[hnsq]

I am a 22 year old male, and haven't lost it yet. It will happen after I am married. I think it is kind of selfish to give up something you can only give once to someone you aren't committing your life to....

I got through a public high school and being in a frat in college without losing it, and as much as it sucks sometimes, it is the right decision

[NWPAguy]

Originally Posted by leslie_downs

this goes to the guys...do you tend to have a bond or some type of connection to the girl you lost your virginity to orrr will always have feelings for her, and what kind of 'feelings'? i know many girls can, but am wondering how it is for the guys. as in a relationship were at one time you thought you loved the girl then you realized that you didnt when you found the love of your life...

Leslie, I do indeed have a strong bond to, and connection with, the girl to whom I lost my virginity. I will always have feelings for her, and they will be feelings of love and attachment. The reason for this is because I lost my virginity to my wife. That situation makes the presence of the aforementioned feelings beneficial, rather than lamentable (as is the case with most people who still have feelings for "their first" when "their first" wasn't "their last".