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Originally Posted by vukinjo
Just like you said not every couple who stays together for the kids will constantly fight...not every divorced situation will be horrible like you describe.
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I didn't say they were horrible, however, statistics support divorce is bad for kids. There's just nothing good about it for them and mom and dad often date and remarry after a divorce which is even worse for them because they've already suffered a loss in time with parents and the new spouse and siblings take up much of their parents time.
Childen of divorce have to split their time between parents and then split the time they have with each parent with new spouses and half siblings. That USUALLY happens. At least he new spouse part. New siblings happen frequently too. The end result is very little time with parents for the children of the first marriage.
Children automatically lose time with each parent in a divorce (or with one if that parent just leaves). It is much better for them if their parents don't date and remarry because dating and remarriage cuts into the limited time they do have with each parent but most people I know go on to date and often remarry after a divorce with no regard for what that does to the kids.
Now there are some marriages that are horrible and as bad as divorce is it's the lesser of the evils but those don't usually make amicable divorces. Most divorces I've seen were the result of two selfish people who would rather put their kids through hell, justify it as the kids needing to see their parents happy because they were too selfish to see anyone's needs over their want for a new partner because they'd tired of the old one.