Do people have any luck trying to "pick people up on the street" anymore? (dating, Asian)

[total_genius]

I was walking through a shopping mall and observed a very professional attractive African American Women was making her way through the store and a African American Man who looked like a Hip Hip Artist went up the women and said, "you are fine looking" "I want to date you" The women seemed like she had seen this all before and quickly dispatched the man who did not seem to be of the same style or social class she was.

It did make me think though because it had been a long time since I have seen someone attempt to pick someone up in a public place. In an era of video dating, speed dating, singles parties and Internet personals, it seems like the old fashioned pick up attempt is dead. Ame I wrong?

Has someone attempted to puck you up and do you think it is more common in certain ethnic groups like african americans?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by total_genius

I was walking through a shopping mall and observed a very professional attractive African American Women was making her way through the store and a African American Man who looked like a Hip Hip Artist went up the women and said, "you are fine looking" "I want to date you" The women seemed like she had seen this all before and quickly dispatched the man who did not seem to be of the same style or social class she was.

It did make me think though because it had been a long time since I have seen someone attempt to pick someone up in a public place. In an era of video dating, speed dating, singles parties and Internet personals, it seems like the old fashioned pick up attempt is dead. Ame I wrong?

Has someone attempted to puck you up and do you think it is more common in certain ethnic groups like african americans?

It can happen if you actually walk on the streets which is not common in my neck of the woods. Guess the malls can be exceptions. In my experience, it's possible to come across a creep or two, but nobody worth mentioning. I'd imagine it might be different among the Latin community as their males are normally more vocal on the streets, but even though Tucson attempts to claim diversity, in truth it's pretty segregated and I wouldn't know. We hardly have any Blacks, so no idea there...

[miu]

Originally Posted by total_genius

I was walking through a shopping mall and observed a very professional attractive African American Women was making her way through the store and a African American Man who looked like a Hip Hip Artist went up the women and said, "you are fine looking" "I want to date you" The women seemed like she had seen this all before and quickly dispatched the man who did not seem to be of the same style or social class she was.

It did make me think though because it had been a long time since I have seen someone attempt to pick someone up in a public place. In an era of video dating, speed dating, singles parties and Internet personals, it seems like the old fashioned pick up attempt is dead. Ame I wrong?

Has someone attempted to puck you up and do you think it is more common in certain ethnic groups like african americans?

When I was in my 20's, one black guy tried that technique on me, right in the middle of Central Square in Cambridge. He also reached out and stroked my upper arm and told me that Asian women had silky soft skin. Needless to say, I was totally grossed out and walked quickly away from him.

I would never ever consider dating a man that walked up to me and straight out wanted to date me based solely on my looks and before I opened my mouth. And I certainly would not accept a date with a man based solely on his looks and with that sort of pick up line so focused on sexual attraction. That would be plain stupid and even dangerous. I also don't believe in fairy tale love at first sight true love.

I don't think that it's a black thing. In terms of it happening in a public area think that it's more part of an urban culture thing. The same approach is also seen in clubs and bars that cater to the singles crowd. Also when the guys have been drinking...

[Azmordean]

Originally Posted by miu

When I was in my 20's, one black guy tried that technique on me, right in the middle of Central Square in Cambridge. He also reached out and stroked my upper arm and told me that Asian women had silky soft skin. Needless to say, I was totally grossed out and walked quickly away from him.

I would never ever consider dating a man that walked up to me and straight out wanted to date me based solely on my looks and before I opened my mouth. And I certainly would not accept a date with a man based solely on his looks and with that sort of pick up line so focused on sexual attraction. That would be plain stupid and even dangerous. I also don't believe in fairy tale love at first sight true love.

I don't think that it's a black thing. In terms of it happening in a public area think that it's more part of an urban culture thing. The same approach is also seen in clubs and bars that cater to the singles crowd. Also when the guys have been drinking...

The difference between the street pick-up and clubs is a big one in my mind. In a most cases, if you are single, and at a club, you are there to meet people of the opposite sex among other things. Sure, you may be there to dance and have a few drinks, but in most cases (not all) you are also there to meet someone or hook up or something. That's part of the club scene.

On the street though, more likely than not you are going about your own business, and NOT there to meet people of the opposite sex. Now, as a man, I'd have no problem with a girl walking up to me on the street to flirt . But I'd never walk up to a girl like that unless it was SUPER clear there was some kind of mutual attraction, because otherwise she's going to just be creeped out and tell me to get lost.

[artsyguy]

Just make sure there is mutual attraction like eye contact and smiling before you flirt or pick people up....treat people well and not like sex machines too. I hate being treated like I'm nothing but a giver of sex or giver of foreplay (which I am not).

Originally Posted by jahutch

The difference between the street pick-up and clubs is a big one in my mind. In a most cases, if you are single, and at a club, you are there to meet people of the opposite sex among other things. Sure, you may be there to dance and have a few drinks, but in most cases (not all) you are also there to meet someone or hook up or something. That's part of the club scene.

On the street though, more likely than not you are going about your own business, and NOT there to meet people of the opposite sex. Now, as a man, I'd have no problem with a girl walking up to me on the street to flirt . But I'd never walk up to a girl like that unless it was SUPER clear there was some kind of mutual attraction, because otherwise she's going to just be creeped out and tell me to get lost.

[optiflex]

I "pick up" a few at laundry mats and supermarkets. I just act dumb. Women eat it up that they know more about fruits, vegatables, folding or why you seperate. I was sitting there in a laundry next to a very attractive lady and decided to just once fold eveything.. She went crazy! I explained my ex used to do laundry for me, and my mom before that. She went into her Home-ec mode and I acted attentivee but clueless, making sure to get it wrong here and there, but be trying real hard. Then I thanked her and asked her if I could repay her with dinner. We're still lightly seeing each other a year later.

Church is big! A man who goes to church by himself? Has a job, likes kids? You have your pick of the single women..LOL

[SifuPhil]

Back in NYC in the day I saw lots of guys hitting on women on the street. It ranged from a whistle or an air-kiss to actually stepping in front of them and blocking their way.

To me, that's low class. But that's just my opinion. Even though I was on the streets every day and saw plenty of gorgeous women I confined my pick-up attempts to, as Artsy said, those that gave a positive go-ahead sign.

Besides, I never could make those lip-smacking sounds without feeling like a jerk...

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by optiflex

I "pick up" a few at laundry mats and supermarkets. I just act dumb...

Church is big! A man who goes to church by himself? Has a job, likes kids? You have your pick of the single women..LOL

You dog, you!

Do you offer tutoring?

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Back in NYC in the day I saw lots of guys hitting on women on the street. It ranged from a whistle or an air-kiss to actually stepping in front of them and blocking their way.

To me, that's low class. But that's just my opinion. Even though I was on the streets every day and saw plenty of gorgeous women I confined my pick-up attempts to, as Artsy said, those that gave a positive go-ahead sign.

Besides, I never could make those lip-smacking sounds without feeling like a jerk...

Yeah I completely agree. I see dudes doing that kind of stuff, I actually cringe with embarrassement for them.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Yeah I completely agree. I see dudes doing that kind of stuff, I actually cringe with embarrassement for them.

Maybe like Miu said it's an urban culture thing...although I lived in the city for seven years, I never really got into the street-culture stuff. I always marched to my own drummer.