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Old 06-22-2008, 09:21 PM
 
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Ahhh, we're all grouchy people, but how we treat our spouses and significant others makes them treat us and vice versa kindly.

You talk of money being the cause of divorce but in our case it's health issues. I've had my bladder removed. I have alzheimers. We've got a lot of that going on here. Very hard on us. Makes us just rely on each other more. Sensitivity is very manly to me. We cry a lot together! Probably had more tears than most couples. We respect one another.

If a man is respectful of a woman and introduces her to people and say's I'd like to introduce my lovely wife. Do you know how good you will make her feel? that in itself will always make her feel so much more confident and secure. My husband either says my beautiful wife or my lovely wife. All these years he's never changed. He's very soft spoken and I find that to be very attractive and manly. No matter how quiet and reserved he is people will listen and respect him by the way he carrys himself. So I think every man who carries himself in a way that isn't boisterous just to be manly will look much more appealing to people.

Now I have totally rambled and gone off topic. Sorry and I totally apologize.
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Old 06-22-2008, 09:24 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Now I have totally rambled and gone off topic. Sorry and I totally apologize.
Please don't apologize for posting what I think is the most beautiful and heartening response I've ever seen on this, or any other, board.

Thank you.
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Old 06-22-2008, 09:30 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Ahhh, we're all grouchy people, but how we treat our spouses and significant others makes them treat us and vice versa kindly.

You talk of money being the cause of divorce but in our case it's health issues. I've had my bladder removed. I have alzheimers. We've got a lot of that going on here. Very hard on us. Makes us just rely on each other more. Sensitivity is very manly to me. We cry a lot together! Probably had more tears than most couples. We respect one another.

If a man is respectful of a woman and introduces her to people and say's I'd like to introduce my lovely wife. Do you know how good you will make her feel? that in itself will always make her feel so much more confident and secure. My husband either says my beautiful wife or my lovely wife. All these years he's never changed. He's very soft spoken and I find that to be very attractive and manly. No matter how quiet and reserved he is people will listen and respect him by the way he carrys himself. So I think every man who carries himself in a way that isn't boisterous just to be manly will look much more appealing to people.

Now I have totally rambled and gone off topic. Sorry and I totally apologize.
Lucky you!
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Old 06-22-2008, 11:47 PM
 
Location: California
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Ahhh, we're all grouchy people, but how we treat our spouses and significant others makes them treat us and vice versa kindly.

You talk of money being the cause of divorce but in our case it's health issues. I've had my bladder removed. I have alzheimers. We've got a lot of that going on here. Very hard on us. Makes us just rely on each other more. Sensitivity is very manly to me. We cry a lot together! Probably had more tears than most couples. We respect one another.

If a man is respectful of a woman and introduces her to people and say's I'd like to introduce my lovely wife. Do you know how good you will make her feel? that in itself will always make her feel so much more confident and secure. My husband either says my beautiful wife or my lovely wife. All these years he's never changed. He's very soft spoken and I find that to be very attractive and manly. No matter how quiet and reserved he is people will listen and respect him by the way he carrys himself. So I think every man who carries himself in a way that isn't boisterous just to be manly will look much more appealing to people.

Now I have totally rambled and gone off topic. Sorry and I totally apologize.
Just beautiful

A preference only - but I prefer sensitive men. Give me a sincere, straightforward sweetheart any day of the week. And I do NOT like games. Either you like me and want to be with me or you don't. If you act like you don't, guess what? You missed your chance, lol!

Don't really want a guy to take control or to fix my car. We make decisions together and share all the responsibilities (that second half doesn't always work out perfectly in marriage but hey, we're talking about my preference). And I'll hire someone to fix my car.
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Old 06-23-2008, 07:21 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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If you ever saw that movie with Brendan Frasier called Bedazzled - one of his characters is this ultra sensitive guy who cries at the sunset and anything moving or touching - that is too extreme. I appreciate a guy who can sympathize and empathize with humanity in general but I don't want the poor guy crying at the sight of a beautiful sunset.
My fiance is very manly but can be sensitive too - just a little though.
He's Mr. Fix It. He can fix anything car or home related and is great in the sack, can be playful and willing to try most things. He isn't Mr. Sensitive and he's not Mr. Macho either, just a good blend but if I had to say, he's leaning towards the macho side. I've always dated guys like this, mostly "a mans man" kind of guy. I think one time I dated an ultra sensitive guy and that was just ridiculous.
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Old 06-23-2008, 08:37 AM
 
Location: in my imagination
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well put it this way,when we are doing nasty things I don't want to think about "loving you" or how much I love you in fact the less I think about that the better because I just want to be primevil.I don't want to say I love you,I want to say and think dirty....really dirty things(devilish emoticon)


After that,when we are spent,when we are cuddling or sleeping well then I'll be sensitive.
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Old 06-23-2008, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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Women fall more easily for the macho types, but in reality they want a mixture of both. They want a guy who knows the correct times to pull out the macho, and likewise when to apply a softer hand. Well that has been my experience at least...
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Old 06-23-2008, 10:17 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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I prefer sensitive guys over macho ones any day. But he still has to have self confidence. My boyfriend is sensitive and we can talk about everything.
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Old 06-23-2008, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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They want a guy who knows the correct times to pull out the macho...
Sometimes when I try to pull my macho out it gets stuck.

Then I cry.
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Old 06-23-2008, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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sometimes When I Try To Pull My Macho Out It Gets Stuck.

Then I Cry.
No reps at this time, but cool!
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