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Old 06-23-2008, 10:15 AM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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On occasion I am seated alone at a public place and overhear someone in conversation. I love to listen to what people have to say to each other and admit I listen closely. Sometimes I overhear the most interesting conversations and am so impressed with the wit, intellect and charm of the person. I wished I knew them and could be friends.

But how can I start a relationship with someone I overhear.

Hey, my name is Pete, I have been listening in on your private conversation and think you are great, you want to be friends?

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Old 06-23-2008, 10:23 AM
 
Location: I'm not lost, I'm exploring!
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That's really creepy!

You don't make friends by spying on total strangers. Find a new hobby. lol
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Old 06-23-2008, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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On occasion I am seated alone at a public place and overhear someone in conversation. I love to listen to what people have to say to each other and admit I listen closely. Sometimes I overhear the most interesting conversations and am so impressed with the wit, intellect and charm of the person. I wished I knew them and could be friends.

But how can I start a relationship with someone I overhear.

Hey, my name is Pete, I have been listening in on our conversation and think you are great, you want to be friends?
I can relate to your desire to do that. It's kind of a tricky situation. Depends how the other person will take it. Some may very well be flattered and interested, particularly if you look and sound as somebody they'd be interested to know, too.

I say it's worth a shot. What's the worst that can happen... get a cold shoulder and a no... On the other hand, there is a chance of finding a good friend.
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Old 06-23-2008, 10:37 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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I do! My boyfriend and I love to eat lunch at this one Indian restaurant. Once a month, a group of older men eat together and they have the most interesting conversations to listen to. They talk things like the restoration of an old church organ, traveling to Africa and whatever they are working on.
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Old 06-23-2008, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Louisiana and Pennsylvania
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On occasion I am seated alone at a public place and overhear someone in conversation. I love to listen to what people have to say to each other and admit I listen closely. Sometimes I overhear the most interesting conversations and am so impressed with the wit, intellect and charm of the person. I wished I knew them and could be friends.

But how can I start a relationship with someone I overhear.

Hey, my name is Pete, I have been listening in on your private conversation and think you are great, you want to be friends?
I ride public transit daily and hear quite a few intersting things. However, I prefer to be a captive audience member.

I would personally never take the above approach, as it is too fortright and to some degree, creepy.
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Old 06-23-2008, 03:42 PM
 
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kidnap them and lock them up until the Stockholm syndrome kicks in
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Old 06-23-2008, 11:37 PM
 
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How about making friends the old fashioned way????

Your behavior is socially retarded to be polite and truly offensive. If someone came up to me and admitted they had been eavesdropping on my conversation, I would politely tell them to take a long walk on a short pier. It sounds like the first step to stalking.
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Old 06-24-2008, 12:21 AM
 
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it is pronounced eaves-drop.

I wouldn't call it stalking but more or less not minding your business which can sometimes be rude and socially retarded.
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Old 06-24-2008, 09:16 AM
miu
 
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How about making friends the old fashioned way????

Your behavior is socially retarded to be polite and truly offensive. If someone came up to me and admitted they had been eavesdropping on my conversation, I would politely tell them to take a long walk on a short pier. It sounds like the first step to stalking.
I think that a lot depends on the conversation. If guy is listening in on some girls talking about their weekend party plans or boyfriend dramas, then he tries to become a part of their lives, then that's inappropriate and creepy.

But if someone came up to me when I was discussing more esoteric and intellectual topics with friends, and that person was into those things too, then I would probably not be offended by their intrusion.
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Old 06-24-2008, 10:21 AM
 
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I agree that's it's creepy to make a habit of eaves-dropping. But if you are bent on making friends this way, I strongly suggest you don't walk up to someone and admit you were deliberately listening to their private conversation. Unless you are hoping to meet other creepy individuals.
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