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Old 07-04-2008, 03:40 PM
 
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I just want to get an idea of how people think about this pair dating: 27 y/o Female and 20 y/o Male, about a 6 1/2 year age difference. Is this a bad idea at this stage of life? Just looking for opinions. Is it just an overall bad idea and if you were in the same shoes, would you forget it or pursue it?

here are a few more details: we both come from pretty traditional households, family reaction might be a problem, we met in graduate school about 6 months ago, but now both graduating soon so no telling where we'll end up career-wise and if we should just separate and move on. Just an awkward friendship right now. It's to a point to either be in a real relationship or end the friendship. As far as maturity level is concerned, we're a pretty average 27f and 20m.

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Old 07-04-2008, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Mayacama Mtns in CA
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Tough call, because of several qualifying factors .. For instance, is it the male or female who is pursuing the possible relationship?

Sometimes chronological age is a very big deal, other times, not so much. Depends on the persons involved and their life experiences, level of maturity, education, etc.

Wanna give a few more details?
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Old 07-04-2008, 04:04 PM
 
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i am guessing it would be different if the guy were older. you would not even ask this question.
i myself am married to a man relatively older.
i would think that for a guy, he will need more time, this may not be anywhere near an age where he is ready to settle down. not ALL guys are like that however. that is something you would need to judge.
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Old 07-04-2008, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Singapore
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No nothing wrong with that at all it would be ok the other way around so why not, I dated a lady who was 31 when I was 24.
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Old 07-04-2008, 04:09 PM
 
Location: Cosmic Consciousness
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We come to life to take the journey we came to take, to learn and to love.
The journey is about making the choices that make our hearts sing... When we don't, we pain. When we do, we rejoice.
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Old 07-04-2008, 04:42 PM
 
Location: Eastern NC
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It depends on the level of maturity of both and what they have in common.
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Old 07-04-2008, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Beautiful New England
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I just want to get an idea of how people think about this pair dating: 27 y/o Female and 20 y/o Male, about a 6 1/2 year age difference. Is this a bad idea at this stage of life? Just looking for opinions. Is it just an overall bad idea and if you were in the same shoes, would you forget it or pursue it?
What are their education levels? Jobs/professions? Career goals? Common interests?
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Old 07-04-2008, 05:00 PM
 
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Age difference is only one of many things that can screw up a relationship, so don't let that stop you...And don't assume that because someone is only 20 that they are immature. I'm 51, and I'm clearly not mature.
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Old 07-04-2008, 05:01 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I am married to someone who is 9 years younger than me. He is 32, I just turned 41.
I think it all depends on the maturity of the younger person. If he is still not knowing which direction he is going in life, and all that goes with that, then, I would say that they need some time to mature. But ...if all seems well with the relationship, then go for it!
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Old 07-04-2008, 05:41 PM
 
Location: Whoville....
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I just want to get an idea of how people think about this pair dating: 27 y/o Female and 20 y/o Male, about a 6 1/2 year age difference. Is this a bad idea at this stage of life? Just looking for opinions. Is it just an overall bad idea and if you were in the same shoes, would you forget it or pursue it?

here are a few more details: we both come from pretty traditional households, family reaction might be a problem, we met in graduate school about 6 months ago, but now both graduating soon so no telling where we'll end up career-wise and if we should just separate and move on. Just an awkward friendship right now. It's to a point to either be in a real relationship or end the friendship. As far as maturity level is concerned, we're a pretty average 27f and 20m.
Given that women usually mature around age 25 and men not until 40 (just kidding), what I think would depend on if they're looking at a long term relationship or not. I'd be worried if they were getting married in 6 months because them being on the same maturity level now means either he just happens to be that rare mature 20 yo male or she's immature and attracted to more immature men. Immaturity and long term relationships doesn't work. Just for having fun??? Have at it. Could be the time of their lives.
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