Are you the same person with both male and female? (girlfriends, married)

[Rcm58]

Phil recommended this thread, or I should say he said maybe it would be grounds for a new thread.

I have personally known many men that act differently in front of their SO than they do around other men and wondered if this was cross gendered or was limited to men. I for one think its a mistake, if you attract someone for life they should know what their getting. My brother kills me at family reunions, I'll start telling a story and he starts shaking his head....LMAO.

[findinghope]

i think it depends on the person. i am chatty with everyone, but obviously when i am speaking with another woman, things will get more personal and stear towards female topis. when i am speaking with a man we talk about general things

[Tzaphkiel]

i've noticed men i know well act differently around other men, i call it "male posturing" it is sort of funny. the fellas i've asked about it totally admit it

you can even spot it on some of the posts on CD here some of the "guy to guy" talk on the same thread on the same topic is waaaaay different than a guy posting to a woman.

there is no difference for me when I talk to someone based on gender, but there is a vast difference talking to someone i know really well versus just an acquaintaince. I am more reserved with people i don't know well, whereas with people who know me well i am more talkative and open

and if it's someone i'm talking to who i'm extremely attracted to i definitely notice myself getting tongue-tied and grinning and feeling sort of dopey and silly and happy

[Ankhharu]

No. I wish I could, but the sad fact is, I have to maintain a tougher exterior when around the guys or risk being looked upon as weaker. I think that goes with most guys. Because of this, my ex-girlfriends and female friends tend to know me better than my guy friends. It also explains why I have more close female friends, whereas with the guys, I'm really only close to 2, maybe 3 of them. The rest are probably more like "associates".

[Rcm58]

Yes but I mean when getting to know someone do you hit paydirt or do you get someone that has taken a magic marker to too many episodes in life's book.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

Yes but I mean when getting to know someone do you hit paydirt or do you get someone that has taken a magic marker to too many episodes in life's book.

Explain, please, for a confused old man?

[Rcm58]

Hey old man...lol

I mean do you offer both dirt and glamor when you lay yourself out for all to see.

[himain]

Ok the way Im reading this is you are asking if I act the same in front of men or women?? My answer would be no. I have to be much nicer to the women so they don't pull their claws out and scratch my eyeballs out

[Miss Martha]

I act like myself no matter who is around. It does take me a while to break out of my shell when new people are around, I'm not shy, but I have to get to know people before I get comfortable enough to joke around and be silly. I'm a very relaxed person for the most part though, so I don't like to have to remember which "me" I have to be around certain people.

Growing up I always had more male friends because they just seemed to be a lot more straight forward about things, but I think men nowadays are starting to act like women, two faced and back stabbing. I've seen it happen. It's like the relaxed laid back lifestyle wasn't good enough or something.

I know my husband was slightly different before we got married, but I still love him and we get along great, he just farts more now that we're married.

[Rcm58]

Originally Posted by himain

Ok the way Im reading this is you are asking if I act the same in front of men or women?? My answer would be no. I have to be much nicer to the women so they don't pull their claws out and scratch my eyeballs out

Yes exactly....my question is why do you feel that way, whats the worst that can happen in the begining?