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I'm a total failure you inventory taking little minx
LOL, perhaps we should make an anonymous poll to see how we rate ourselves in the failure department. If we're all failures, what business do we have giving opinions... much less advice...
LOL, perhaps we should make an anonymous poll to see how we rate ourselves in the failure department. If we're all failures, what business do we have giving opinions... much less advice...
When I'm emotionally detached..I'm quite profound at giving advice. Really good, solid advice. THE PROBLEM IS I'm just another higher primate sometimes ruled by emotions!
It's one thing to realize you made a mistake and decide you need to fix it. How many of us have taken a job only to discover it was all wrong for us? I moved to a city thinking it was the right place for me and less than 2 years later, I realized I made a mistake and am looking to move again. And maybe you got involved with someone who seemed nice but then they turned out to be an awful person. In those cases, it makes to sense to look for something better. But when you're already happy with someone, when there's nothing wrong, and yet you still find yourself wondering if you could do even better, that's just being incredibly selfish. When you feel like you can just discard someone cause someone better comes along, that speaks to the kind of person you are.
When I'm emotionally detached..I'm quite profound at giving advice. Really good, solid advice. THE PROBLEM IS I'm just another higher primate sometimes ruled by emotions!
Yeah, the problem is mainly in following our good advices ourselves...
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Originally Posted by DennyCrane
But when you're already happy with someone, when there's nothing wrong, and yet you still find yourself wondering if you could do even better, that's just being incredibly selfish. When you feel like you can just discard someone cause someone better comes along, that speaks to the kind of person you are.
Believe me, these people will learn their lessons the hard way. Chances are they're going to find worse, not better; or nothing at all. And considering their mentality, the outcome shouldn't come as a surprise, either.
Dr. Phil supposedly fixes marriages. I noticed his wife threw him out of the house recently.
Oh, noooo! At least he could boast about having a good marriage - certainly helps in his line of work. Remember reading a huge interview with him and his wife a few years ago and everything sounded peachy... Oh, well, you never know - perhaps the peaches were rotten already and finally fell off the tree.
I saw this article which talks about how part of the reason people aren't happy these days is because they're always looking for something or someone better.
And it makes a lot of sense. We as a culture don't seem to settle anymore. In the old days, people stuck with the same job for decades. Now, we change jobs every 3 years. It could be for more money, better benefits, better hours, or plenty of other reasons. The point is that we're convinced there's always a better job out there. And it seems like we do that with our relationships as well. A person could be with someone who makes them happy, but they might also be wondering if they could do better. They're bombarded by images of people who are thinner, younger, sexier, funnier, etc. and start to think they've settled too much. Maybe that's why divorce and infidelity are more common these days. In the end, it says a lot about the person that they're willing to discard their partner for what they think is someone better. Maybe we're just a culture of spoiled children who can't appreciate what we have.
No, you're talking about the evolutionary trait that drives us to invent and improve. If we were happy with what we had, we'd still be living in caves. It's that we are never satisified for long that drives us to improve our world. Unfortunately, it spills over into our relationships and when we run out of new things to do, we often leave.
The pattern is date, plan a wedding, plan having children, have children, get bored, get divorced. Many marriages hit crisis after children are born not because the children changed things but because they just ran out of new things to do to make life different. Dating to marriage is usually only a couple of years, then often it's only a few years to kids. Suddenly, you've signed up to same thing different day for the next 20 years.
Heather locklear is perfect in every way,yet she's so distraught she hasn't found me she's in a rehab, poor thing.
Geeze, I forgot - she wanted me to give this to you...
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