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I think whoever does the asking should pay. Of course, of one of them knows the other (who asked them) is broke, then they should offer to cover half or pay. But then in the next date the person who didn't pay last time should pay.
(this sounds so much more confusing whiten out than it does in my head)
When I was married and we went out to dinner, he paid 90% of the time. Now that Im dating He pays if we go out. He would have a cow if I tried to pay. I cook for him 2-4 nights a week. If I cook at his house he buys the food unless it is more convieient for me to pick it up after work. He tries to pay me back for the food I buy, but I refuse his $. He buys the beer. If I go out with a guy friend, seperate checks.
I always pay and never give it a second thought. I guess it was how I was raised, to treat women with the utmost of respect. If she insists on contributing, I let her. If she wants to pay, I let her. I just assume that I will pay, unless she indicates otherwise. Guess it's not an issue with me because I have the money.
Kind of interesting response there, since only a few minutes earlier you posted in the "What do you call your Mother in Law" thread:
I call her many names, just not to her face. She doesn't like me and I couldn't care less. The only reason she gets any kind of consideration is because she's my wife's mother.
When I see her (once every 5 years or so), I call her whatever suits me at the time. Last time, I didn't call her anything, just said "How ya doing? Good to see you." I gave her a hug and she ignored me and didn't speak to me the entire trip. The time before that, I called her by her first name.
Sometimes I call her Mrs. < shortened last name >
Blessed is the man who lives 2500 miles from his mother-in-law.
Guess it is a good thing you live 2500 miles from your mother-in-law, saves you from having to explain why you pay for your dates.
I usually offer to pay, but most guys won't ever let me pay.
I use to too (been in a long term relationship..no longer date)..thats just my nature. But I think that guys are impressed by that..so they decline my offer!
Regardless of who asks, everyone should pay for themselves -- No exceptions! We have to do away with the notion of men shouldering the responsibility of everything in society. Dating should be about balance and equality across the board.
My guy paid for most of the first dates. The first time I reached for the check he was floored. After a brief discussion he agreed to let me pay. Now I pay occasionally or cook for him. I think he has a desire to pay but in my mind I need to pay once in a while. In the beginning I think it shows class for him to pay and pick the places.
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