married woman loves married man (marriage, cheating, husband, young)

[mari4him]

Sorry but there is no way to really respond to this post without the morality issue coming into play. This is infidelity and it is worng anyway you slice it up. No intercourse because he doesn't want to cheat? Please. And what exactly is all the flirting, kissing, hugging, sneaking around behind spouses backs and ohhhh lets not forget the oral pleasuring. It is cheating. It was cheating the moment the flirtation began while he was married. It continued being cheating the moment it went further into kissing. The cheating was only taken to higher levels with all the rest that went on.

My opinion. This isn't love, it's lust. Plain and simple. All this "oh we shouldn't do this, it's wrong" and then having no backbone to have enough self control not to do it is just messed up. You are both married and you are both doing your spouses wrong.

I think you need to back away from this man, he needs to back away from you and you both need to figure out if you really want to be in your marriages or not. You owe your spouses that much. If you don't want to be in your marriages then set your spouses free to be able to find someone that will love them and be faithful to them. If you do want to be in your marriages, then both of you need to start focusing your attentions, your efforts and your desires in the direction of your spouses and cut out all the other flirting and wrong doing that is going on.

My response may not be what you want to hear, but this is as much as I can say on this matter without going deeper into the morality, ethics and consequences of the whole thing. Sorry if it is not patting you on the back and saying don't worry all will be okay. But there is just no way to say that in this situation.

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by shooshoo80

thnkx 4 yr reply...... But i want to tell u that i suffer so much cuz since he decided to endthe intimate part this happened last week & us being just friends 4 the sake of our families he kept on coming to our place where wemeet with our mutual friends .. We sit & chat together but i cant forget our intimacy .. I relly suffer .. Doesnt he suffer when he look into my eyes & when i am that close but he can't touch ???? he is staring at me when i am not looking but when i catch him he just looks away ... What should i do to end those painful feelings .....helpppppppp

If you really love him like you say you do, then you will stop meeting with him, even with mutual friends! If the intimacy has stopped, then why tortue yourself, and him? Go home to your husband and child, and let him live his life with his wife as well. Sorry..

[old_cold]

"What should i do to end those painful feelings .....helpppppppp"

Find yourself a pheromone blocker.
Some researchers think the recptor might be in the nasal area so when he's around, try pinching your nose shut

[ShinyHappyLucy]

Originally Posted by shooshoo80

thnx but he doesnt use me cuz u dont knowhow much he resist doing this to the extent that some times he is hugging & kissing me & we are about to do ... u know .. then he just pulls himself back & says no this iswrong ... it took us a year of pushing & pulling like this till we became intimate & also it happens 1 times each 3 or 4 months & without real intercourse just foreplay

Of course he's using you. You're giving him free blow jobs. Just because he "resists" you sometimes doesn't mean he's in love with you. If he was in love with you it would be much harder for him to resist you.

Your husband doesn't deserve this, and Mr. Religion's wife doesn't deserve this. Most importantly, your child doesn't deserve this. Be a grownup and do the right thing.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by undertheironsea

What in the name of blue-bearded monkey sex was that? Could anyone read half of what that said?

LMAO! I know I don't read such verbal runs (to use an euphemism), but believe it or not it was posted for the 2nd time and "inspired" yet another thread!

[TMTY]

Is their any chance your religion condones divorce?
You need to prioritize your life- religion, lover, husbund, child???? You need to ask yourself what matters the most......to help make a decision about whether its worth keeping on this relationship which seems to cause you so much pain in the first place.

Does he love you? he seems to from your ramblings, but he is the one you have to ask!

Ask yourself are these few stolen moments worth the pain it causes you and him never mind both your families if they were to find out?

[wclac]

I think most married women are condoned to commiting adultery. If you like him that much, divorce and get with him.

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

Huh??? I already posted on this....I`ll post again.
Yes...I think he loves you, but I also think that he is married, and so are you.
Get a divorce. He needs to divorce, then...the two of you can move on. Until then....leave it be!

It was taken down apparently and shooshoo reposted it, of course she read all the previous posts and corrected her grammer and stuff. NOT!

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by shooshoo80

please i need a reply for my problem , but plzzzzzzzz don't type an answer that is talking about ethics, morality & consequences of infedility .. i just need to know does he really love me & how to win him back ..We were work colleagues since 2002 i was single & he was married couple of months when we firstly met , we started out as friends & were flirting together , we had great chemistry .. then i got engaged to another work colleague .. he was upset but he didn't say it out loud he just began to avoid talking with me or making eye contact ..he took 20 days off from work & went on a trip to US & when he came back it seemed that we both couldn't hold our feelings as we missed each other so we kissed passionately in the work place !!! ..i responded to his kiss for a while but then pushed him & said it was wrong we shouldn't as i am engaged & he's married ... i don't know how it was happening but since then we were kissing & hugging in workplace as we weren't able to c each other ouTside work ... i married in dec2003 when i came back from honey moon he was giving me the cold shoulder again & refusing to chat with me as we used since we r best friends .. then i went 2 him & told him why is he treating me like this we r friend ,, he told me u r married & i am trying to resist u then we looked 2 each other passionately & it started allover again .. the kissing & hugging ..he asked me once r u happier when u r with me or yr husband ??? - note we only were kissing & hugging - i told him i am happier with u ,, i asked him the same & he answered i am happier with u & i feel it's affecting my relation with my wife --- note that he doesnt love his wife & his family pushed him to marry her because she is sooooo rich , her father is a multi multi multi millionnaire -- lately in the mid of 2004 he left the work .. he told me u r the reason cuz i cant resist u & i dont want to cheat because it is not allowed by our religion the next week until he left he kept on kissing & hugging me so passionately as he never did,, i felt it though he never told me i felt the love ........ when he left i got dEpressed & my hormones go upside down causing me health problems ,,he stopped calling he only did once on my birthday & other to ask me if every thing is alright with my husband& when we met he gave me the cold shoulder .... i got pregnant in the beginning of 2006 then i know he was going to a place we went there once when he left the work & that he is hanging their gradually with some of our mutual friends ..so i started going there with my gfs when i was pregnant ,, he seemed happy to c me ...when i gave birth i disappeared 4 a total 4 months where i made a whole makeover with my hair i lost all birth weight ,,then i went there to our place , he was sitting alone this day .. when he saw me he was shocked , he kept on looking at me then he said do u know what i miss so much ? it's yr kiss ..i told him i miss him too .. i went to his private office & guess what we only kissed & he pushed me cuz he said he don't want to cheat .. i went to give him his birthday present 3 moths later & we kissed again & he pushed my clothes then he stopped saying we shouldn't do this & we should b together alone again ..... 2 months later he told me he wants me to do him massage therapy which i can do excellently ,, when i was massaging him he pushed me on the bed & kissed me wildly then pushed my head to do him a EXPLETIVE DELETED.. since mid 2007 till now we only met 6 times each time when we finish he says this should be the last time cuz this is wrong if u can dont come to our restaurant where we meet cuz i become weak when i c u .. but after a while he tells me he misses me & wants me to come to his office but always he refused to make an intercourse cuz it's prohibited to do it except with yr spouse - according to our religion or he get a punishment from the Lord - so what we r doing is only oral pleasure & foreplay for each other -- but now when i told him i missed him since we didnt meet since 3 months he told me i told u that it was the last time & i dont want to do this again i am afraid of Lord punishment .. dont open this discussion again ,, i told him ok no problem ,, i looked cold cuz i didnt want him 2 c me week but i have burning fire inside ..is there a way that i can get him into me again ..knowing that he still go to our place & wants to be beside me .. i am ignoring him but he is keeping his secret looking at me , he feels jealous when i flirt with other friends ... i want him to want me again ..... answer the question from the emotional side & don't interfere in infidelity matter i know each of us has his family & children but i love him sooo much i want to know does he love me ?? is there a chance that i can make him want to physically with me ?? what should i do to make him want those private moments with me ???
thanks a lot

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Grow up. And please do not get pregnant again until you do. No child deserves to be born into this kind of drama with such immature parents. You are someones MOTHER now - you do not get the luxury of living out these ridiculous fantasies of yours and creating so much chaos all around you. Find a therapist immediately - you need some counseling and to learn some self control.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by LAFan

I think most married women are condoned to commiting adultery. If you like him that much, divorce and get with him.

I don't think you meant to use the word "condone" - that is when someone overlooks, excuses or ignores something. Most women certainly DO NOT condone their husbands cheating on them!

IF you were trying to say something so ridiculous as "most married women are PRONE to committing adultry", there you go again just showing off what little you really know about women.