Marital Sex..Is it Supposed to Get Stale? (girlfriend, men, lover)

[mari4him]

Originally Posted by bxlefty23

seriously just shut up

Is it so necessary for you to be so rude about someone else's suggestion or advice, just because it taps into an area that you may not agree with.

I think the poster's advice was very good, from a different perspective. For those of us that do believe in the power of prayer and it's ability to change a situation, the post was excellent advice.

While in a situation like this there is tons of practical advice that can be given, such as has been given. There is also spiritual advice that can be offered and there is nothing wrong with that.

On the practical side, I offered my opinion, thoughts and advice. He needs to talk to his wife and listen to her about her needs, not just his own. He needs to see if there is anything he is not fulfilling for her, that perhaps has her not going above and beyond to fulfill his needs.

However, I am also a Christian Woman and believe totally in the power of prayer and as a Christian woman, let me tell you that I agree totally with what the poster said. There is nothing sexier to a Christian than a spouse that will openly take your hand (or hold you) and pray with and for you. That is just another level of intimacy in a relationship which can, and does, trickle it's effects into all other area's of intimacy and the relationship.

Really, don't be so closed minded and rude. If you don't agree with the post, just skip it over, but to tell someone to shut up just because you don't agree. They have as much right to post their thoughts, opinions and advice here as you do.

[2mares]

fresnochick
Thats exactly how sex in my marriage was except he fefinately wasnt my first, second, third etc. and somewhere in the cob webs of my memory I knew what I was missing. The stbx called me a frigid bit ch more than once. Now that really gets your motor going. Ive since had my memory refreshed.

If your not getting any guys it could be you just suck in bed.

[2mares]

When you have sex and aunt flo is over the week, I like to call it crime scene sex. (think of what the sheets look like)

C5
Ive alway said a mans not a man until he has fought a bloody battle.

[LifesWhatUmakeOfIt]

Originally Posted by bxlefty23

seriously just shut up

I am with you on that

[To GOD be the Glory]

Originally Posted by rbryant

Bingo..it's toys. I was just trying to keep it somewhat clean. I could get graphic and detailed to no end, but I think the point remains.

Toys are not the answer. Giving all problem areas to God is. Let His Light Shine in your life today. God Bless You! In our prayers, Jami

Also I would like to add, I came from a family of total dysfunction. Was kicked out by 1st step monster by age 15,married by 20 and 3 kids by 24. THE BIBLE was my teacher about Marriage,Family,Children,etc. I was so afraid of failing,I turned to Jesus and HE turned me to THE GREATEST BOOK I have ever read. THE BIBLE.

It can be as easy as you would like or as hard. I pray for you to have wisdom,knowledge & understanding beyond your years.

[Hobokenkitchen]

Originally Posted by To GOD be the Glory

Toys are not the answer. Giving all problem areas to God is. Let His Light Shine in your life today. God Bless You! In our prayers, Jami

Also I would like to add, I came from a family of total dysfunction. Was kicked out by 1st step monster by age 15,married by 20 and 3 kids by 24. THE BIBLE was my teacher about Marriage,Family,Children,etc. I was so afraid of failing,I turned to Jesus and HE turned me to THE GREATEST BOOK I have ever read. THE BIBLE.

It can be as easy as you would like or as hard. I pray for you to have wisdom,knowledge & understanding beyond your years.

Ugh, sorry but this kind of response is such a turn off. Please don't preach - there is a religion forum for that. If you want to add your experience, fine. But preaching is tiresom and aggravating.

As an aside; toys can actually be great in a marriage and can help add some spice.

[Liza54]

GOD BE TO GLORY yeah...I respect the right for her to post, but somehow I feel like it is too easy to push off all responsibility to a higher source. You can change life here if YOU want to!
Anyway, without reading each post in detail, I'd like to say that I think it is normal for sex to feel stale after a few years. I know some people somehow keep it spiced up , but for me #1, You can't deny that it only varies so much when you're with the same person. I love my husband, but he kisses the same, smells the same, etc. That's why a new person is intoxicating...it's new! I still desire my husband, but understand that you can't get that 'new relationship' feeling years later. #2, having 2 kids under 2y and working full timee...yup,I'm just flat out tired. And although it sounds cool,the thought of literally having sex in a car...um, no. I am so tired these days that honestly I'm thrilled w/a shower and some wine before sex...not getting dressed up in lingerie, etc. ( oh, my poor husband...). Oh, and role playing would get us in hysterics I'm sure....
I bet my husband wishes sex could be more frequent and more spicy, but we also definitely enjoy dinner and a movie on the couch these days...

[To GOD be the Glory]

Originally Posted by Hobokenkitchen

Ugh, sorry but this kind of response is such a turn off. Please don't preach - there is a religion forum for that. If you want to add your experience, fine. But preaching is tiresom and aggravating.

As an aside; toys can actually be great in a marriage and can help add some spice.

Sorry I don't have religion I have JESUS. I was not preaching. I was speaking from my own marriage struggles and how we resolved them and where we turned when we needed help. I pray you won't be so closed minded and judge mental any longer, In Jesus Name Amen. God Bless You. Jami

[Hobokenkitchen]

Originally Posted by To GOD be the Glory

Sorry I don't have religion I have JESUS. I was not preaching. I was speaking from my own marriage struggles and how we resolved them and where we turned when we needed help. I pray you won't be so closed minded and judge mental any longer, In Jesus Name Amen. God Bless You. Jami

Actually you were preaching. I'm fine with Jesus fixing all your marital problems. That's great. But why is it necessary to write "In Jesus Name Amen"? What has that added to the conversation?

There are not many things that I am close minded about. Preaching is one of them I will admit.

[Rcm58]

Right now I'm praying for a grilled cheese sandwich....grrr! guess I'll have to get up and do it again myself.

While the only women I've ever been with that acted remotely the way you described was more of a homebody, old school sort and it didn't last I got the feeling from being around her family that it probably had a lot more to do with upbringing than could be worked out in conversation.